Things You Should and Shouldn't Say to Your Daughter (ZT)
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% Y* p0 e7 i! C5 s1 x8 R+ [Parents, whether you realize it or not, EVERYTHING you say makes an impression on your child. So, make sure it’s a good one! Here are a few things you should and shouldn’t say to your little girl. The researchers at Condé Nast Publications interviewed various psychologists, and here’s what they found. First. the GOOD. You should ALWAYS say:
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' s/ a, v& i' Z3 b* “Did you do anything FUN today?” Life isn’t all about achievements and asking your daughter about what brings her joy can help her find her true passion. / @' k$ v$ t. i3 [# ]1 c
% S2 \% E7 w; F; m* “That was a brave thing to do.” When girls stand up for someone or something they believe in, they should be cheered for it. That’s the mark of a true leader and it takes courage. 5 }. b/ ?$ X% V& H' ?$ s
& V7 }9 _8 u/ V* Another thing you should always say: “Well-behaved women seldom make history.” These words come from historian Laural Thatcher Ulrich. They’re important because every now and then, the rules should be broken. As long as your daughter is breaking them for a good reason, this lets her know you have her back.
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6 y; Y( J& G& b+ X* Tell her “Just know I’m here. No pressure, no judgment. " She needs to know she can turn to you, even if she’s done something wrong or dangerous. It’s better that she turns to you in crisis than keep something from you because she thinks she’ll be judged. ) ~) l& T/ A4 V0 U0 v7 ?" `, b
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Now, for the things you should NEVER say to your little girl:
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& U+ F& S0 R9 p% t+ U* K2 w* “I feel fat.” After a second helping of mashed potatoes, you probably do! Bbe careful about saying it. If she sees you hating your body, she’ll learn to do the same.
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* Don’t tell her: “You’re young. You’ll get over it.” Yes, she’ll survive being blown-off by her so-called friend, but that doesn’t make it hurt any less right now. So just listen.
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* Another no-no: “Guys won’t like it if you . ” It’s never good for a girl to change who she is to “get” a guy. Tell her the right one will like every crazy, quirky thing about her. : F$ c A% t4 t, C k
6 H+ n/ o5 B; T0 K; w L; X, ^* And one last thing you should never say to your daughter? “These are the best years of your life.” High School?!
来源: study
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% Y* p0 e7 i! C5 s1 x8 R+ [Parents, whether you realize it or not, EVERYTHING you say makes an impression on your child. So, make sure it’s a good one! Here are a few things you should and shouldn’t say to your little girl. The researchers at Condé Nast Publications interviewed various psychologists, and here’s what they found. First. the GOOD. You should ALWAYS say:
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' s/ a, v& i' Z3 b* “Did you do anything FUN today?” Life isn’t all about achievements and asking your daughter about what brings her joy can help her find her true passion. / @' k$ v$ t. i3 [# ]1 c
% S2 \% E7 w; F; m* “That was a brave thing to do.” When girls stand up for someone or something they believe in, they should be cheered for it. That’s the mark of a true leader and it takes courage. 5 }. b/ ?$ X% V& H' ?$ s
& V7 }9 _8 u/ V* Another thing you should always say: “Well-behaved women seldom make history.” These words come from historian Laural Thatcher Ulrich. They’re important because every now and then, the rules should be broken. As long as your daughter is breaking them for a good reason, this lets her know you have her back.
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6 y; Y( J& G& b+ X* Tell her “Just know I’m here. No pressure, no judgment. " She needs to know she can turn to you, even if she’s done something wrong or dangerous. It’s better that she turns to you in crisis than keep something from you because she thinks she’ll be judged. ) ~) l& T/ A4 V0 U0 v7 ?" `, b
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Now, for the things you should NEVER say to your little girl:
; S9 B3 x' f B* G g, U4 W
& U+ F& S0 R9 p% t+ U* K2 w* “I feel fat.” After a second helping of mashed potatoes, you probably do! Bbe careful about saying it. If she sees you hating your body, she’ll learn to do the same.
7 b8 q' y8 }& B% T9 j) Q' ~4 h: ^1 c# ?
* Don’t tell her: “You’re young. You’ll get over it.” Yes, she’ll survive being blown-off by her so-called friend, but that doesn’t make it hurt any less right now. So just listen.
6 v3 Y( |0 X+ k; P2 I, O9 T8 h; C# I
* Another no-no: “Guys won’t like it if you . ” It’s never good for a girl to change who she is to “get” a guy. Tell her the right one will like every crazy, quirky thing about her. : F$ c A% t4 t, C k
6 H+ n/ o5 B; T0 K; w L; X, ^* And one last thing you should never say to your daughter? “These are the best years of your life.” High School?!
