爱情就是交易

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为什么爱情是永恒的话题? 因为人们始终不知道它究竟是什么. 所以才有那么多的纠缠不清, 那么多的无病呻吟. 如果你真正认识到了爱情实际上就是一种交易, 就没什么解释不了的了.

 

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agree

 

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I do not agree with you although I have been struggle for real love for many years and I am a loser at the end. But I still believe there must be a few lucky couple in the world possess the real and success
love. Unfortunately, many of us not that lucky. Marriage is too fragile due to the God do not want man
get love. So often is the case, the God scatter our dream of love then the God can get those broken heart people to believe him and praise him. THE GOD SET OUR FATE BY HIS MAGIC HANDS. ONLY LOVE CAN DEFEAT THE DESTINY. THE MOST MISSERABLE THING IS MOST OF US ARE
UNDER THE TRAP OF THE GOD WITHOUT BEING AWARE OF THE SAD STOTY ARRANGED
BY GOD.

 

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TO 过客

你太悲观了，我讲一个故事给你听，希望你能得到启发。

他很爱他的女友，但是最终他们还是分手了，他始终都不能释怀，一直都想再挽回，无奈女孩最后嫁人为妇。他心中很郁闷，有一天他看到一位道士，于是就希望道士给他一些启发，道士给了他一面镜子，说道等他看完以后就会明白该怎么做了。他拿起那面镜子，镜子中慢慢显出一幅画面：沙滩上躺着一具裸体女尸，周围有很多人在游玩，但是谁也没有注意到这具女尸。过了不久，走过来一个年轻人，他发现了这具女尸，于是就脱下自己的外套，轻轻地盖在了女尸的身上，然后转身离去了。又过了一阵，走来另一个年轻人，他也发现了这具女尸，他什么话也没说，借了把铲子，挖了个坑把女尸埋了，然后也转身离去。镜子里的画面到此就结束了。他不解其中的含义，就问道士这幅画面究竟代表什么，道士对他说：“这具女尸就是你女友的前世，而你就是那个替他盖衣服的年轻人，今生她在你身边的这段日子只是她报你前世盖衣之恩，她的丈夫才是那个把她埋葬的年轻人。”他听了以后，顿时一切都释怀了。

故事到此就结束了。很多事情冥冥之中自有天意，不需强求，也不必愤世嫉俗，该是你的终究会是你的。

 

[梅子]

是你的你躲也躲不开.不是你的你永远抓不住.这些都是命中住定的.满满的等,你会等来他/她.

也不要因为是失恋才信主, no one can defeat the destiny.这样一来你不会明白信主的真正的意义.

 

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最初由 梅子 发布
是你的你躲也躲不开.不是你的你永远抓不住.这些都是命中住定的.满满的等,你会等来他/她.

也不要因为是失恋才信主, no one can defeat the destiny.这样一来你不会明白信主的真正的意义.

同意. 实际上, 那个冥冥中注定是你爱人的就是可以与你成交的伙伴.

 

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EXCHANGE只是市场行为。如果你认为LOVE是交易，那么你的付出最多只能得到等价的回报；如果你把爱情看成生命的一部分，付出爱才会得到爱，但前提是你必须懂得爱。不过爱是无法指望用市场规律去解释、衡量的。

 

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若一方把 LOVE 看作 LOVE, 而另一方把 LOVE 看作交易(一个借婚姻和LOVE来改变自身生活质量和父母家庭生活环境), 那会是怎样的结果呢 ? 若这样, 那对那位把 LOVE 看成 LOVE 的人不是不公平了吗 ?

但现实生活中不是天天在发生吗 ? 为何陈红 + 陈凯歌? 为何杨澜 + 吴征, 为何徐帆 + 冯小刚,等等, 为何这些人不来找 OTTAWA 的孤男寡女啊 ?

每个人在寻找LOVE时也都是有自身的标准的. 人的相貌, 身高, 经济条件, 性格,2家人的家庭背景等等. 当你谈论你的找男友或女友的标准时, 这就已经不是纯感情了.

绝对地说 LOVE, 是无意义的. 没有 PURE LOVE, 婚姻都是一种, 或几种利益的结合.

 

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那个故事反过来说的话...女生只是那个男生前世路过的一具尸体, 竟然在今生把上辈子路过的尸体娶回来当老婆? 那听的人不但不觉得奇怪, 还释怀了, 明明是他先路过的嘛...搞不懂天意在哪~~~

 

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I am just wondering if guo4ke3 has ever fallen in love with someone. when you are really in love with somebody, what you want to do is just to give your love to him/her, rather than to obtain/exchange love from him/her. Everybody who ever falls in love is aware that love is such a fascinating spiritual state, not a relationship. The point does not lie on whether the beloved one is lovely or not, but whether you have loving heart or not. Love is a great chance for people to grow up. Considering no one has any obligation to love you or accept your love, let us be grateful to him/her.

 

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最初由 guest123 发布
I am just wondering if guo4ke3 has ever fallen in love with someone. when you are really in love with somebody, what you want to do is just to give your love to him/her, rather than to obtain/exchange...

Thanks for your comments. I am longing for the so-called "true love " all the time and agree that love is to give rather than to extort something from the other. But the reality is when people are giving something, such as money, affection etc., they are always expecting a certain kind of return on these things from the other. What I am proposing is just a fact which has nothing to do with my stance.

"Pure love" does not exist in reality. IT IS A FACT. If it does exist, can you depict it for me and give an example? Do you really not ask for anything from your lover, not even affection? If you do, your love is actually a kind of exchange, isn't it? If you do not, what happens if your lover's brain had been transplanted to an animal without harming its functionality? Will you still be in love with him/her? What is he/she? Is it a brain carrying a kind of spirit?

Think about it. What are you really loving? Let me tell you, you must be (have to be) loving an EXISTANCE which can GIVE you something and you, in order to keep getting those things, must be existing as something being able to give as well! THIS IS EXACTLY THE PROCESS OF EXCHANGE!

 

[娃娃]

把爱情看成投资或者交易的人，本身就想从别人身上获取更多。爱是付出，不是索取。当然也是彼此需要……但是，爱一个人的时候，是想把自己的东西给他，是想让他快乐，是想和他在一起。这个是最基本的。然后才是希望他同样的回报。这就是为什么有时候，明知道什么都不会得到，还会忍不住想付出的原因。还有，一个人可以不尊重他自己的爱情，但是不能鼓动大家都不相信爱情。就好象放p，偷偷的就好，别煽。

 

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老过, 把爱情看成什么没所谓. 爱情能让一个彼此素不相识的异性全身心的接受你. 把这看成什么就仅仅有理论价值了.
爱情是exchange并不为过, 有来有往嘛. 看成deal就稍微有点无趣了. 总之, 如果追求什么, 总得是个有兴趣的东西.
人的感情很微妙, 简单的deal和exchange是片面的.

 

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love is the most important investment in the life. no matter you buy or sell,you already put the most beautiful time
frame of whole life in the trade.