two boys

[orchid150]

I have been with my boyfriend for almost 2 years. He wants to marry me. But my son does not like to talk with him. They do not get along well. What should i do?

 

[mangliu]

I have been with my voyfriend for almost 2 years. He wants to marry me. But my son does not like to talk with him. They do not gel along well. What should i do?

虽然知道是个坑，还是忍不住坐在坑里的沙发上。

 

[只是马甲而已]

虽然知道是个坑，还是忍不住坐在坑里的沙发上。

这一回米娅不知为什么特别生气，看着坐在沙发上的男友米卡尔，一怒之下她把身子移到男友面前，使劲一屁股坐下去。然而，等米娅起身的时候，她再也听不见男 友嘀嘀咕咕的声音了，因为他已经断气了。随后，警方逮捕了米娅。

 

[风 雨]

You'd better quite the relationship ASAP. Otherwise everyone (you, boy, he) will suffer. Everyone has to get along well if living under the same roof.

 

[orchid150]

thanks for all the replies.

It is easy to say than done. My son will never like anyone around me; on the other hand my boy friend treats me well. That makes me very confused.

 

[bpzm]

儿子不能陪你一世。而且他的嫉妒出于自私。纵容下去对你和你儿子的未来都不好。不但毁你幸福而且扭曲他的性格。你为他独善其身，一但他成人有新家，你只能孤独终生了。碰上将来不孝顺，只能后半身跟眼泪过日子

 

[Ayin_Ottawa]

儿子不能陪你一世。而且他的嫉妒出于自私。纵容下去对你和你儿子的未来都不好。不但毁你幸福而且扭曲他的性格。你为他独善其身，一但他成人有新家，你只能孤独终生了。碰上将来不孝顺，只能后半身跟眼泪过日子

说得极好！

儿子多大了。如果尚小，要慢慢教育他。如果是teenage了，你就应该给他讲道理：妈妈有权追求自己的幸福，并不意味着妈妈不爱你了。

 

[orchid150]

My son is a teenager.

I understand what you are saying. However, It is hard to see my son unhappy. I told my boyfriend how about we wait until my son grow up and he can understand more. My boyfriend though I do not really love him because I refuse to marry him.

 

[Ayin_Ottawa]

My son is a teenager.

I understand what you are saying. However, It is hard to see my son unhappy. I told my boyfriend how about we wait until my son grow up and he can understand more. My boyfriend though I do not really love him because I refuse to marry him.

心里不踏实的人总想让别人把爱表达出来、固定下来。我猜你爱你的儿子，也love自己的男朋友，问题是他们爱你吗？

听起来他们是一对没有长大的男孩。

很难的选择，很难。

 

[小灰灰]

只能多跟你的儿子沟通了。然后想办法让你儿子和你的bf相处。

 

[hcloud]

让你BF给你儿子买辆拉风的跑车

我估计一切就容易了=)

 

[ccc]

两个BOYS，近两年时间都没有磨合好，估计是没戏了。

这其中会有很多因素影响他们建立＂友谊＂。

有一个因素也不容忽视，就是LZ同儿子的爸爸离异多久了（当时孩子多大）；在两人离婚的问题上，儿子是怎么看的。

 

[shgcn]

先同居，然后再考虑结婚，2年的时间也不算太长

不过说句实话，你这个问题谁也帮不了你，谁也不清楚你们3者的关系到底如何，过去2年是怎么相处的，每个人的性格怎么样。这里给的建议估计你也不会接受，你应该已经有自己的想法了。

 

[orchid150]

it is not easy. I divorced several years ago. I was not in a relationship because I though my son won't accept the other person due to the drama we had from previous marriage.

I was thinking to give up the relationship, wait until my son grow up. But if I give up this relationship, my son will know he can control my life. It is not a good thing either.

 

[cmah]

两个BOYS，近两年时间都没有磨合好，估计是没戏了。

这其中会有很多因素影响他们建立＂友谊＂。

有一个因素也不容忽视，就是LZ同儿子的爸爸离异多久了（当时孩子多大）；在两人离婚的问题上，儿子是怎么看的。

你就别再往里跳了， 俺那个教训还不深刻吗？