悼念我们的兄弟队友王凯

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他倒在他心爱的排球场上,再没有起来。。。

夜深了,起来看看孩子,有没有把被子踢开。端详着老三熟睡的脸,今天白天的活动是否令她疲惫,还是让她兴奋得连睡觉的小脸上都挂着笑容。给她把被子掖好,再恋恋不舍地躺回自己的被窝。

明天一早,还要给老二准备早餐,最近她有点不喜欢中式的早餐,换换口味吧。明天送她去上学的路上,她可能还会问到选举的问题,孩子大了,有自己的见解了。

老大呢,正在准备期末考试,有一个星期没有电话联系了,算了,先不打扰她,等她考完试放了假,再给她做她最爱吃的火烧补偿补偿吧。

对于三个女儿,他是一个慈爱的父亲。而对于我,他是一个温和的兄长,语速向来不疾不徐,和他谈话,像听说书似的,带一点儿京腔,是我喜欢的韵味儿。

初识是在草坪,儿童游乐园旁边的草坪,孩子们夏天在这里嬉戏,秋千滑梯,天热了还有戏水莲蓬。有人带了排球就一起垫几个。他从前在大学里排球打得很好,我们就让他作教练。他教得很用心,遇上没有基础的,就耐心地教,结合练习让我们慢慢体会正确击球部位和控球感。我们的团队水平不一,但是每一个人都很痴迷排球,一如这位兄长。后来在冬天,我们组织了定期的室内练习,他也带老二老三妻子来。偶尔出去打比赛,他的妻子是我们任劳任怨的后勤,队医兼孩子的保姆。
为准备这次早春杯排球赛,前两周画了阵型图送到每个队员的手里,图上六个位置,有每个队员的名字。星期六(April 30)那场慈善排球赛,在他二传的有力组织下,我们20 比11 遥遥领先,还差一个球就完美收场,他却倒下了没有再起来。
孩子的爸爸走了,他倒在了他心爱的排球场上。毫无预兆的心肌梗塞,顷刻就被死神召去了。救护车呼啸而来,但是还是没有能挽回脆弱的生命。

生活琐碎,凡事没有完美,但生命的意义和美丽,就在体验这些琐碎和不完美的过程中,在努力提升自己的过程中,在关怀家人,关心朋友的过程中。今天,他再也没有这样的机会了。

这样一个慈爱的父亲,昨天还是家里每个人都可以依靠的港湾,今天竟然成为苦涩泪水中的回忆了。

听到这个不幸的消息,我不能自持,为人父,为人子,我能体会这生命的平凡,这平凡的生命。 但我难以想象一个失去主要收入支柱和主要精神支柱家庭所面临的困难。

幸福和不幸,就隔着薄薄的一张纸。这一次,上苍这般无情,捅破了这张纸。原本生气盎然的家庭,被迫要面对即将到来的一切压力,按揭财务压力会迫使她们卖掉现在的住所,另寻一处遮蔽的空间。

现在,家里显得空荡荡的,到处都有他的痕迹,处处都是令人伤心的记忆。他曾计划要在地下室弄一弄的,把乒乓球台的灯光弄得亮堂一些。他曾计划要把草坪弄一弄的,让草儿长得更茂密一些。现在,他的家人无奈要计划的是他的葬丧。相濡以沫的妻子,悲痛得彻夜难眠,睹物思人,情何以堪,睁眼是他,闭眼也是他,他怎么舍得就这样撒手人寰。万般悲痛下,还得叮咛亲属朋友,千万别透露这个消息到媒体,担心在外地求学大女儿的期末考试受到影响。

为了一个遭受这样打击的家庭,我们能做点什么呢?朋友们,请伸出你的双手,帮助一下这个在移民道路上奋斗在移民道路上奋斗未果的朋友吧,为家庭伸开臂弯的丈夫和慈父吧。无论多少,都有帮助。

朋友们,你也是家里的顶梁柱吧,或者是和顶梁柱共创美好前程的拼搏者,奋斗者。我们坚信一分耕耘,一分收获,这是以身体健康为前提的,请珍惜身体,珍惜自己,珍爱家人,珍爱生命。

谢谢。

追悼会消息:
Kai Wang, Nepean resident and Canada Border Service Agency (CBSA) employee, passed away suddenly in Gatineau, Saturday, April 30, 2011, in his 49th year, while participating in a charity volleyball tournament for Moisson Outaouais (Food Bank Outaouais). Moisson Outaouais serves to meet the needs of economically disadvantaged children and families.

Born in Beijing on December 16, 1962, Kai received his primary and secondary education in Beijing. From 1980 to 1984, he studied in Beijing Agricultural University, majoring in Economic Management. After graduation, he worked for the Tong County Government Coordination Office and then for China Ministry of Education. In 1990, he was admitted to the Masters Program in Agricultural Economics of McGill University, and between 1992 and 1996, he studied in Ottawa University majoring in computer science. After graduation, he worked in several private companies including Nortel. In 2003, he started to work for the CBSA at first as a Software Developer/Analyst and then DBA until the time of his death.

An avid volleyball lover, he played an active role in a local volleyball team and coached many of his team members on basic volleyball skills as well as offensive and defensive tactics. He is loved and respected by all his team members.

Kai was also an active member of the Ottawa Chinese United Church for many years, having been baptized there in the late 1990’s.

Kai, the sole stable income provider of his family, is survived by his now devastated wife, Huiying Yin, who had known Kai ever since her childhood and was married to him for more than 25 five years, and by his three daughters, who love him deeply, Elizabeth, 25, Isabella, 14, and Evangeline, 6.

Visitation is scheduled from 1 to 3 p.m., Monday, May 16, 2011 at the Capital Memorial Chapel & Reception Centre, the Capital Memorial Gardens, Manotick, Ontario, K2C 3H1 (3700 Prince Wales Drive). A funeral service will be held in the same building beginning at 3 p.m., followed by a reception.

Contributions and donations in memory of Kai Wang may be made to his wife, Huiying Yin.
 
Order of Sacred Service Information

Order of Sacred Service:

Musical Prelude and Gathering

Scripture Sentences

Statement of Purpose

Prayer of Invocation

Hymn: “Abide With Me”

Remembrances:

Yin Huiying
The Honourable Pierre Poilievre, M.P.
Yves Saumure
Han Ming
Tiwei Huang - Northstars Team
Huang Fei
Liqiang’s group
Larry Cao’s group
Du Wenson’s group

Scriptures

Message: Rev. Rodney Bennett

Hymn: “Precious Lord, Take My Hand”

Prayer of Response and Lord’s Prayer

Commendation and Benediction

Musical Postlude

After-glow

I’d like the memory of me,
To be a happy one.
I’d like to leave an after-glow,
Of smiles when day is done.
I’d like to leave an echo,
Whispering softly down the ways.
Of happy times, and laughing times,
And bright and sunny days.
I’d like the tears of those who grieve,
To dry before the sun.
Think of happy memories I leave behind –
When day is done.

--Author Unknown


Presiding Clergy:

Rev. Rodney V. Bennett
Central Lanark Pastoral Charge
United Church of Canada

Interpreter: Dr. Shupang Chou

Organist: Scott Auchinleck

Personal Support and Assistance: North-Stars Volleyball Association

Capital Memorial Gardens – Manotick, Ontario

All are invited for a time of refreshment following the service.
 
舞林大会募捐纪实

感谢舞林大会的组织者,各健舞队和到场观众,感谢Kanata健舞队自发制作黑白丝带,她们队的Winnie给募捐也提供了很好的建议,还帮助站场募捐。

一开始,我们的人员是六点半到场,拉开桌子,铺开建勇做的募捐盒,摆起募捐材料和介绍。进场的人马是络绎不绝,有部分在我们的台子处停留,看劝募信,有的应该是在网络上已经看到了信了,过来直接就给钱。有两张一百的支票,和一个直接给一百现金的,当进场人流稀少的时候,卖门票的撤了,我们也点了钱准备撤了。第一波总额有645元,RAN, FEI,HANMING等签字画押,WEN收钱。

我也是糊涂,这时候才知道HANMING是王凯的同事,还以为他是路过,跟FEI等聊天呢。我们简单自我介绍了一下之后,Kanata健舞队的Winnie过来了,她给我们带来了"内幕",那就是她们是接到通知6:15就入场的,所以好多舞者来的时候,我们的募捐还没有开始,她们都揣着钱,揣着爱心等我们呢。

我们于是决定继续,没有什么理由不多等会儿,她们的爱心,一定要帮助转达给惠英。我们把门票的桌子借来,临时做了一个简陋的募捐盒,在通道更远处设立了另外一个捐款处,互为犄角,截住更多的人流和关注。

我去买一点吃的,回来刚好散场的人潮出来,通道上只有我们两张桌子了,人们果然是纷纷捐款,也有还不了解情况的,向我们索取中英文募捐信的。这时候可以显出那张捐款台的用处,因为HANMING和Winnie都是老渥太华了,认识不少邻居或以前同事,有几次,那人就远远地眯着眼缝在嘀咕,这是谁呐。大概也有好几年没见了,等认出来了,又都感叹这一档子事儿,有的也是王凯的老友。
好些没有预先准备的,还回到车上去拿钱包。有一位妈妈,她跟Winnie讲,自从收到邮件,她就怀疑是熟人,她女儿敦促打听双双的姓名,待落实了,确认是她女儿的同学,这母女俩在电话里痛哭一场。

有老外来捐款的,有小朋友来捐款的,有老人来捐款的,好多人捐了都不愿意留名。我们看着这些捐款的人流,估计总额能和第一波的数额匹敌,等全部人都走光了以后,汉明,Winnie,还有BMO的蔡敏帮忙一起数钱,1363.84,Double! 大家签字画押,收钱收桌子。

真是感动,遇上了特别有主意的Winnie,他们整个队做的黑白丝带,做了两百多个,买不到材料了,说是如果我们能找到材料的话,她们还可以帮忙,这些丝带,送给捐款的人,也是一份心意。舞林大会这么多有爱心的参与者,今年没赶上,我明年一定用心来观摩她们的演出。

后记:
经常看到地震或者海啸灾难以后,慈济的人在大统华组织捐款赈灾,总算体会一把他们做事的心情了,用一个台湾词语来表达,“感恩”呐。
今天,还有邻居,也是和王凯在一个大楼上班的朋友,还打电话来询问捐款的事情。
 
支持。

截止目前,以渥太华阳光排球俱乐部牵头,阳光排球俱名部成员以及与阳光排球俱乐部相熟的个人捐款总额达$1,751。

明天送王凯一程,大家尽量来吧。
 
葬礼通告

时间:2011 年5月16日
遗体告别:13:00 - 15:00
追思会: 15:00 - 16:30
茶水招待:16:30

地点: Capital Memorial Chapel & Reception Centre, the Capital Memorial Gardens, Manotick, Ontario, K2C 3H1 (3700 Prince Wales Drive).

希望更多的人来送王凯最后一程。
 
一路走好。
 
I never know what to say in this kind of situation.
节哀is probably the last thing the family wants to hear now.
I hope they will find a guiding light through this dark time.
 
愿他入天堂后天心每一天吧
 
一个好父亲,哀悼,一路走好。大家也都保重,健康第一。
 
加拿大政府应该出手帮助他的家庭渡过难关。
 
我会去送这位朋友一程

葬礼的地图
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葬礼通告

葬礼通告

时间:2011 年5月16日
遗体告别:13:00 - 15:00
追思会: 15:00 - 16:30
茶水招待:16:30

地点: Capital Memorial Chapel & Reception Centre, the Capital Memorial Gardens, Manotick, Ontario, K2C 3H1 (3700 Prince Wales Drive).

希望更多的人来送王凯最后一程。
 
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