Need advice: How to kick unwanted childish husband out?

[newlife2010]

Case closed

 

[Coast]

哥们，说你呢！你老婆要动真格的啦！

这年头没有谁服谁，离开谁都能活！所以赌气充老大是没用的，也是愚蠢的！

可是孩子呢？难道曾经没有爱过？难道不能为了相爱的一面改一改自己的不足？

真要离了，就是一片创伤，一辈子都可能难以抚平的创伤！

明天，怎么好怎么过！

 

[anyone8chatroom]

see, he wants money, give all money to him, he wants you, give all you to him, he wants children, give all children to him, then ask him;
what will he do with the money, what will he do(treat) with you? what will he do with children?

 

[hming]

He always treatening me he is going to leave home, but he never did. I'm so tired of fighting with him for everthing and hear all kind of threatening word. We are 性格不合。We can't even treat eachother as Friends. Tried 婚姻 councilling，useless. He is self-centered, everthing is about what he wants and when he wants, about his money, not the family responsibility, not the children's needs. I really wish he could be a man some day, not a rebelling teen-ager, so we could have adult communication or keep his word, take his money, his stuff, go and live a freedom life he wants.
We almost live seperately (still under same roof). I couldn't even get an agreement with him for seperation althought I prepared to give up a lot of my rights except the children and house to get this done. I can also pay him back half value of the house and just have a new life.
What should I do?

Interesting, you are stuck in the mess just like I am. I tried almost everything and couldn't get out. The only way out is getting divorce in the court. Unfortunatelly, I don't have enought financial support to do that. Here are some of my experience that you probably find useful:
1. Cancel all the joint account and credit card.
2. Split the bill payment and living expenses
3. Live you life with your children in your house, pretenting he doesn't exist. After a while, you will feel like he really doesn't exit.
4. Get lottery tickets everyweek (better get your colleagues pool the money, so you don't need to speed too much--one or two dollar a week). Once you win the money, divorce him.

 

[anyone8chatroom]

"4. Get lottery tickets everyweek (better get your colleagues pool the money, so you don't need to speed too much--one or two dollar a week). Once you win the money, devioce him. "
you seem a very sweet girl, once "Once you win the money, devioce him. ".
so he will get half of your lottery money too, do you know? because this money is still within the marriage. not out of the marriage money.

 

[hming]

A couple years ago in Canada, there was a guy won the lottery. He kept it secret and started divorce process untill the last week of claiming expire date. He didn't get divorced as he planned, but all the sudden he disppeared after collecting the money. His wife couldn't find him. So, no matter what she did, she hasn't get a cent of that money so far.

Once you have money, there are tons of options you could do to prevent him from getting a cent. Even taking the case to the court, you could hire high-profile lawyer to make the case lasting forever. During all of these long long periods, I don't think anybody would have problem to hide most part of the money. So, sweet girl? Wise woman most likely!

 

[danon]

Unblievable! If I am not the wife, I would thought that I wrote the post! Can not believe there are other husband like mine too. I thought he were so unique . But life goes on. I do not think I would devorce him since my kids are big enough to know what is going on. I do not want to hurt them. I would live happily with them. Think this way, anything can be solved by money should not be a problem. Then there would be much less expectation and much less conflict.

 

[hming]

Unblievable! If I am not the wife, I would thought that I wrote the post! Can not believe there are other husband like mine too. I thought he were so unique . But life goes on. I do not think I would devorce him since my kids are big enough to know what is going on. I do not want to hurt them. I would live happily with them. Think this way, anything can be solved by money should not be a problem. Then there would be much less expectation and much less conflict.

呵，可以成立俱乐部了。

 

[carmen0612]

you are stuck in the mess just like I am. Unfortunatelly, I don't have enought financial support to do that。

 

[葱拌豆腐]

往事不堪回首。

 

[anthonywong]

爱是对另一个人成全；爱是舍己、牺牲自己，成全别人。有所损失、有所舍，付代价，成为爱的开始，才能经营持久，才会一生相互珍惜。

跟你介绍一部电影：Fireproof

 

[NANAKO]

老实说，我发现渥村有一部分男人真的是超级小心眼+自私，不知道是不是因为这个原因才能在这个村子住的享乐。