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珍惜生命....U. Waterloo(CS高才生自杀)
http://bbs.comefromchina.com/threads/1571485/
有一段话写的很好，转过来：
Hey OP, I just wanted to let you know I know exactly where your head is right now. In 2008 My older brother shot himself in the head. When I heard the news I was physically sick. I know how surreal it all seems. The next few months will seem like you are living them from a distance, and the next few years wont be much better. Most likely you will begin to question everything in your life. If I can offer you any advice it would be this; never give up on your own life, there is always something worth living for. Live how your brother would want you to live. Rediscover your passions and push yourself to discover new ones. Change things up, travel, try new things, meet new people and don't stop till you find a path worth walking. Its been 9 years since I lost my brother, I think about him every day and still shed tears occasionally. I spent years running from what happened, I over indulged in drugs and women, but eventually I came back to the things that truly make me happy, skateboarding, snowboarding, camping, hunting, and business. Being broken down by the loss of my brother forced me to rebuild and reinvent myself to be rock solid. I find strength knowing that I will never hurt like I did from that. Keep your head up kid, and live a life you'll be happy to tell your brother about when you see him on the other side. Good luck my friend. PM me if you want someone to talk to about it. You are not alone.
珍惜生命....U. Waterloo(CS高才生自杀)
http://bbs.comefromchina.com/threads/1571485/
有一段话写的很好，转过来：
Hey OP, I just wanted to let you know I know exactly where your head is right now. In 2008 My older brother shot himself in the head. When I heard the news I was physically sick. I know how surreal it all seems. The next few months will seem like you are living them from a distance, and the next few years wont be much better. Most likely you will begin to question everything in your life. If I can offer you any advice it would be this; never give up on your own life, there is always something worth living for. Live how your brother would want you to live. Rediscover your passions and push yourself to discover new ones. Change things up, travel, try new things, meet new people and don't stop till you find a path worth walking. Its been 9 years since I lost my brother, I think about him every day and still shed tears occasionally. I spent years running from what happened, I over indulged in drugs and women, but eventually I came back to the things that truly make me happy, skateboarding, snowboarding, camping, hunting, and business. Being broken down by the loss of my brother forced me to rebuild and reinvent myself to be rock solid. I find strength knowing that I will never hurt like I did from that. Keep your head up kid, and live a life you'll be happy to tell your brother about when you see him on the other side. Good luck my friend. PM me if you want someone to talk to about it. You are not alone.
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谢谢灵兮转过这一篇来，我去读了那个死去的学生的弟弟写的，一字一句的读了两遍，还有那个写授课老师很难受的也读了两遍。非常触动人。
我觉得那个学生的弟弟写得非常非常好，一个16岁的孩子把自己心中的感情都表达出来了。但是，我觉得Chase的自杀，不是一门课或者一个学校的问题，更不是 “Chase was in the co-op program and the idea of moving back and forth every 6 months must have scared the living hell out of him.” ，而应该是多种因素凑成的，虽然我们不知道这些到底是什么，但是一定是压力，沮丧，绝望，让人觉得生不如死。
我不知道别人怎样，我觉得许多人一生中可能都有过一两次觉得活着没什么意思了的感觉，但是大多数人都只是念头一闪，而会继续生活下去。高中生和大学生容易自杀，因为他们没有家，没有负担，没有责任，更容易结束自己的生命。
前些日子看了一个视频，里面说有个家长骂她的孩子，说孩子不上进，给家里丢脸什么的，第二天孩子就自杀了。我觉得每个家长都应该跟自己的孩子好好谈谈这件事儿，而且要注意给孩子减压，不要出现类似的悲剧。
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确实是这样，不是人人都能走出来。
最著名的例子就是金庸的大儿子19岁的时候为情自杀了...智者如金庸也无法接受这样的残酷现实，后来据说他读遍了佛经也就是为了能想明白其中的原因....
长子查传侠19岁为情自缢
在金庸的儿女中，大儿子查传侠大概是最具有父亲遗传基因的孩子了。传侠还在牙牙学语时，金庸就开始教他《三字经》。传侠4岁时能背诵全本《三字经》，6岁时背诵《增广贤文》，大家都叫他“小神童”。
传侠14岁时写过一篇文章，说人生大苦，了无意味，有出世思想。有人看过后说应该阻止孩子这样想问题，金庸却觉得儿子是对的，他甚至夸奖儿子早慧，思想深刻。金庸万万没有想到，儿子因“早慧”而断送了性命。1976年10月，正在美国读大学一年级的查传侠因为与女朋友在电话里吵了几句，一时冲动，自缢而亡。那一年，他还不满20岁。
这是金庸心中永远无法弥合的伤痛。2004年9月，金庸曾痛苦地回忆：“我记得接到大儿子在美国过世的消息后，好灰心，好难过；但那天还要继续在报馆写社评，一面写就一面流泪，一直都很伤心，还是要写。”后来，金庸亲自把儿子的骨灰捧回香港安葬。
http://www.chinanews.com/cul/2014/03-30/6008789.shtml
