还是请教下离婚方面的一些情况(比较紧急)

Re: thanks, every one

最初由 twjawoman 发布
One thing I just want to ask that if I can get the child: Can I bring her to visit China later since my family loves her very much?
I think you can, but you need your husband's permit to avoid he suits you later.

If I want to get a job in China, can I bring her to China with me?
I don't know, you need ask a lawer.

Or Can I support my parents to Canada if my income is low?
You'd better get a higher income job to support them, you have a bechelor degree, don't you?

You'd better ask a lawer what you should do right now

good luck!
 
Two things to clarify:
1) if he hides the money(cashed out or transferred out), all you need to do is asking your lawyer to get all his bank statements showing all recent transactions and the court will split the money.
2) if you use "Legal Aid" (government pays your lawyer), after you get your share of the money, you have to pay government back, you only keep the balance if there is still balance.
The judge may rule that both of you share custody ( your child stays with you for one week, and next week with him).
If you keep the child(you get the child's custody), I think you can only take her back to visit not to stay because he has his right to visit her very week or month.
You can't sponsor your parents to come here if you don't have income. Even if your parents could come, how would you pay all the bills and for how long?
If you plans to go back to China to work there, you may have to give up the child.
Keep all your emails and show the "good" ones to your lawyer.
I'm not a lawyer and I have no divorcing experience (want to "divorce" my in-laws but it's hard...). I tried but what I have said may not be true but hope it helps.
 
同意!!

最初由 ottawa248 发布
一面之词往往搀了很多个人的观点, 如果出自第三者之口更不足为凭. 几个月前还把
钱放一块, 忽然就闹的不可收拾, 怪了! 而且这房子车子的钱大抵也是哪个男人
挣的. 两口子的事, 只有上帝知道, 外人那里说的清谁对谁错 . 至于打雷伯, 我
看就不必了. 母女的生活费, 不是孩她爸给, 就是加国给.

加国中国的律师, SOCIAL WORKER, 社区的机构都去问问. CFC上的外行话听不听无所谓.

一般的原则是: 1.孩子最重要 2.自己比别人重要 3. 不要义气用事,法官判完, 说啥都不重要了
 
I guess the kid is the key in this case. Do not learn the Chinese lady in USA (I forget the name) want get both money and kid. You have to select nad make decision. If select the kid, it is not good to come back now. Anyway, hire a lawyer and hold accounts (joint accounts) and other properties to avoid more loses first.
 
“人生若只如初见……这是一句太怅惘的感慨,总是在曲终人散或者人仰马翻之后,望着生活留下的一地狼籍的瓜子皮,忽然想起某年某月的一天,隔着那一树桃花的灼灼光华,我曾见你最初的笑颜。

  这场景,对于怨偶同样适用,影视剧里常有狼心狗肺的丈夫和他死缠烂打的黄脸婆,消磨尽所有的温情,只剩下嫌恶与仇恨、逃离与追击,总揣了凄凉想,他们也是好过的啊,除了被命运所弄的极少数人,最初也都曾相看两不厌。”
 
Re: Re: thanks, every one

最初由 killingsoftly 发布
ok, I just read your previous post here - so, finally you know everything, hope it's not too late... and now you know why I called those white guys/sluts as white monkey... but one thing I don't understand - how can the monkeys look down Chinese - which have become human being for 5000+ yrs? ;)






ayo,calm down man,we dont give a #$%^ about whatever colour they are,but yo,this ain't a right place to talk about this issue,right?
well,and i think b4 they break up,we shudn't b!tch my friend's husband too much,what do you think dude?

how'bout respectin' a chinese sister's husband and her child(i don't care what colour they are tho~)

:D :cool:

thanks for readin' this,and your valuable suggestion:cool:
 
Re: Re: Re: Re: thanks, every one

最初由 ottawa248 发布
你把一个男人女人的故事, 说的象坏人好人的故事, 难怪别人误解. 其中的来龙去脉,你的朋友自己还没搞明白, 否则也不会说unbelievable. 你一个外人真是瞎搀和.

看不出哪个男人有什么不好. 有工作,有房有车, 同父母亲近, 爱女儿. 做事细致, 性格内向. 同老婆感情不好, 是生活里不和谐的一面, 这也不是一个人的责任. 想要女儿的抚养权, 不愿负担未来前妻的生活, 也是平常人的想法.

lonely, unhappy都只是怨妇单方面主观的看法. 如果不能欣赏对方的个性,至少应该接纳他, 不然何必嫁给他. 说什么对方活的不好, 甚至孩子也带不好, 很不公平
. 思想自然会反应到言行上, 男人喜欢被老婆看低那才是怪事. 至于selfish, 同公婆的矛盾, 有多少是完全符合事实的无从知道. 听怨妇的口气, 银行的帐也还没
查过. 用EMAIL吵架, 除了练英文, 好象没什么好处.

家丑不外扬. 闹的沸沸扬扬, 要是两个人又好了, 笑话就大了. 如果要进入法律程序, 更不应在公共媒体网站披露太多细节. 劝怨妇就此打住.



Well said!
 
Don't critize my friend

Don't citize my friend, he just wants to help me. I just don't know how to deal with this thing in China. And I don't know Canadian law. And don't know which way is better for my child. I treat The Chinese group as freinds, So I don't care about losing faces to get some suggestions.

If you don't know the whole story, and I do not need to tell the story in deal ,too.I hope your guys don't fight about this, and don't critize my freinds.
 
Re: Re: Re: Re: thanks, every one

最初由 ottawa248 发布
你把一个男人女人的故事, 说的象坏人好人的故事, 难怪别人误解. 其中的来龙去脉,你的朋友自己还没搞明白, 否则也不会说unbelievable. 你一个外人真是瞎搀和.

看不出哪个男人有什么不好. 有工作,有房有车, 同父母亲近, 爱女儿. 做事细致, 性格内向. 同老婆感情不好, 是生活里不和谐的一面, 这也不是一个人的责任. 想要女儿的抚养权, 不愿负担未来前妻的生活, 也是平常人的想法.

lonely, unhappy都只是怨妇单方面主观的看法. 如果不能欣赏对方的个性,至少应该接纳他, 不然何必嫁给他. 说什么对方活的不好, 甚至孩子也带不好, 很不公平
. 思想自然会反应到言行上, 男人喜欢被老婆看低那才是怪事. 至于selfish, 同公婆的矛盾, 有多少是完全符合事实的无从知道. 听怨妇的口气, 银行的帐也还没
查过. 用EMAIL吵架, 除了练英文, 好象没什么好处.

家丑不外扬. 闹的沸沸扬扬, 要是两个人又好了, 笑话就大了. 如果要进入法律程序, 更不应在公共媒体网站披露太多细节. 劝怨妇就此打住.




你的想法很有个性,你提到说,不用把什么都拉出来讲是没错的,我在这里也劝我朋友可以就此打住了,对于那些同情的帮助我觉得实在太感谢了,至少对下一步该怎么样有点想法了。对于那些觉得我朋友在怨天尤人的,那么也谢谢你们读我们的贴,另外感谢所有发给我QQH和帮助我朋友接机提供临时住宿的有名字和没名字的朋友们。

周末外面太阳不错,也比较凉爽,好心人们都过个好周末吧~
 
I believe u should talk to a lawyer, not listen all the BS here...
 
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