这样的情况,是不是应该离婚了

换我,要是老人帮带孩子的,我就算是吃了人家的嘴软,冲着这,不敢起冲突的.老人照顾好孩子,省了自己的好多力气,节约了很多钱的.所以,要是婆婆接触下来,感觉人是不大好的,我是不会给她机会带孩子的,即使自己再累再花钱,不然等于我欠她的.

真正坏人又有多少呢?我倒不信公婆会真的挑唆儿子离婚啥的,也没啥人不大好这事儿,说到底,很多时候就是生活习惯不一样,观念不一样,代沟呀。。。老人家节约惯了,见我买点东西就能念叨个三四天,讲话也会很不客气,那能怎么办呢?我原来也生气,想着花自己的钱,你念叨个啥,可是再想,她也就是想让你节约一点,也就算了,我也不能再不买东西,她也不能再不叨唠,只要不是原则问题,睁一眼闭一眼就算了,要不然怎么办呢?吵翻天?让婆婆一见我就闭嘴?不可能吧,算了,和为贵。。。
 
:confused:可这个也要有强大的经济基础做后盾哇。。况且双方父母一来岂不买两套?加自己夫妻俩一套。总共三套?:p 年收入得达到多少啊?

为啥我老是听到是男方父母在这住的比较多呢?!越听我越怕。。偶未来的公婆已经在路上了。。。天呐。。。。

OML, the in-laws are coming!!!

The following are in-law quotes. Enjoy!

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“We never make sport of religion, politics, race or mothers. A mother never gets hit with a custard pie. Mothers-in-law-yes. But mothers-never.”

~Mack Sennett

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"Difference between law and in-law is you can justify yourself before law but never before in-laws"

“The mother-in-law frequently forgets that she was a daughter-in-law”

~Unknown

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“Never rely on the glory of the morning nor the smiles of your mother-in-law.”

~Japanese Proverb

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Happiness Is Seeing Your Mother-In-Law’s Face On The Back Of A Milk Carton.

“Just got back from a pleasure trip: I took my mother-in-law to the airport”

~Henry Youngman

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“English Law prohibits a man from marrying his mother-in-law. This is our idea of useless legislation.”

“Back of every achievement is a proud wife and a surprised mother-in-law.”

~Brooks Hays

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“Be kind to your mother-in-law but pay for her board at some good hotel”

~Josh Billings

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“I saw six men kicking and punching the mother-in-law. My neighbor said ‘Are you going to help?’ I said ‘No, six should be enough’. “

~Les Dawson

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“I wanted to do something nice so I bought my mother-in-law a chair. Now they won't let me plug it in.”

~ Henry Youngman

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“I haven't spoken to my mother-in-law for eighteen months. I don't like to interrupt her.”

~ Ken Dodd

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“The wife's Mother said, ‘When you're dead, I'll dance in your grave.’ I said: ‘Good, I'm being buried at sea’.”

~ Les Dawson

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“My mother-in-law had to stop skipping for exercise. It registered seven on the Richter scale.”

~ Les Dawson

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“Adam was the luckiest man in the world. He had no mother-in-law.”

~ Sholom Aleichem, Mark Twain and others

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“I told my mother-in-law that my house was her house, and she said, ‘Get the hell off my property’.”

~ Joan Rivers

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“I can always tell when the mother in law's coming to stay; the mice throw themselves on the traps.”

~ Les Dawson

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“Honolulu? Well, it's got everything: sand for the children, sun for the wife, sharks for the wife's mother.”

~ Ken Dodd

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老人来这里探亲,双方和谐相处最关键的一点是要相互尊重,相互理解,同时还要
1,尽量安排短期居住,不要超过半年为好。我父母来探亲,事先就说好在夏天来玩,天气变冷了就回去。这样,老人在这里时,大家总是在琢磨着怎么玩,如何度过在一起时的短暂时光,就不会有时间去琢磨人了。
2,到谁那住,就听谁的安排。我老妈在家里也是个很强事的人,家里里里外外都是她来管的。但到了我这里,基本上什么也不管,即使是做饭也只是给我们打打下手,从不自作主张。而我回国去基本上进不了厨房,老妈全包了。
3,老人来这里帮带孩子,做晚辈的要心怀感激之心。人家凭什么免费给你带孩子还要受你的气呢?孩子稍微长大点,是不是要想着带老人出去玩玩?说老实话,带孩子的老人是很辛苦也很寂寞的,语言不通行动不便。要多替他们想想。
4,老公要装糊涂,老婆有气只给老公撒。这个就不展开说,了大家都懂的。

:cool::cool:很中肯!
 
More in-law quotes:

American couples have gone to such lengths to avoid the interference of in-laws that they have to pay marriage counselors to interfere between them.
Florence King

For the first time ever I was taking the family on the road. We stayed with my in-laws, which on life's list of experiences ranks right below sitting in a tub full of scissors.
Jeff Foxworthy

Going to Nashville to meet the in-laws was the first time when I'd been in America and not been seen as some sort of eccentric character with a cute accent.
Nick Lowe

Having a baby changes the way you view your in-laws. I love it when they come to visit now. They can hold the baby and I can go out.
Matthew Broderick

I have a great husband, great parents and in-laws, and I have help with a nanny. It's not easy, but there are others who do it every day and don't have a high-profile job as I do.
Marlee Matlin
 
谢谢所有给我建议的cfcer们!

我没有叫警察,也没有让我老公赶老人走。扪心自问,我不是一个脾气特别好的人,但也不是一个恶毒的无理取闹的女人

我在寒风中走了几个小时,想了很多,有自我反省也有思考具体的解决办法。最后所有的怨气都在他的一个拥抱中化解。如果一个男人肯为了你流眼泪,应该还是有爱的吧。

我们最后的讨论结果是我再忍耐半年,等夏天让他们四处玩玩之后就让他们回国。他们的移民担保到时候我不签字自动撤销。我们会尽到子女的义务,无论是金钱还是他们过来小住都不是问题。不过他们以后来玩只待几个月,避免矛盾。

也许这是最好的解决办法了。
谢谢大家!特别是给我发了悄悄话的热心人们!谢谢你们了。

终究还是需要LG表态,沉默解决不了问题。
衷心祝福你们!
 
More in-law quotes:

American couples have gone to such lengths to avoid the interference of in-laws that they have to pay marriage counselors to interfere between them.
Florence King

For the first time ever I was taking the family on the road. We stayed with my in-laws, which on life's list of experiences ranks right below sitting in a tub full of scissors.
Jeff Foxworthy

Going to Nashville to meet the in-laws was the first time when I'd been in America and not been seen as some sort of eccentric character with a cute accent.
Nick Lowe

Having a baby changes the way you view your in-laws. I love it when they come to visit now. They can hold the baby and I can go out.
Matthew Broderick

I have a great husband, great parents and in-laws, and I have help with a nanny. It's not easy, but there are others who do it every day and don't have a high-profile job as I do.
Marlee Matlin

:o你好像比我更ENJOY。。。不想了该来的总会来滴。。。话说我跟我公婆隔的不止两三代了。。这代沟大的都可以挖坑了
 
其实也不用上升到老人可怜这么高的高度
大部分在这里的像我们一样的人对老人绝对不是不孝顺的
谁都希望家和万事兴,其乐融融
但这真的只是理想状态,现实生活里总会有这样那样的问题


那么多人建议让来探亲的老人分开住
是拍脑袋想当然的还是真的有人用这样的方法成功地解决了矛盾?

我知道的几对老人都是自己提出来的,和晚辈住在一起他们觉得不自在。儿女都请不回他们。
 
27页以后抄送LD审阅,重点阅读TS,YY,GYGY发言。。。周末家庭政治学习讨论发言
 
27页以后抄送LD审阅,重点阅读TS,YY,GYGY发言。。。周末家庭政治学习讨论发言

牛吹,谁都会。
 
让来探亲的老人在外面租房分开住,我强烈觉得这是不可能完成的任务

一般过来探亲的老人就是为了跟子女团聚住在一起共享天伦。分开住的话还有什么意义?
老人在这里人生地不熟,单独住在一边跟坐牢没啥区别
一般接老人过来探亲的中国人,多半都有自己的房子,空间绝对不是问题
那么怎么可能让老人出去住呢?
至少我身边没有这样住在大house里,老人来探亲住在小公寓里这样的事情

有老人在外面住的,但是都是移了民的老人,申请的也是老年公寓,有年龄相仿的人做伴。

在多伦多有很多上下层分2个单位的房子,楼下有车库面积大约900尺。2房一厅加独立厨厕。楼上1300尺,要求不高的话,也够一家3-4口住。老人住楼下,自己从后面独立出入。好处是,水电地税杂费节约,老人可以帮接送孩子,也可以做好饭大家去楼下吃,也可以分开做分开吃,减少矛盾,因为公用厨房厅就会有看不惯的时候。这样的话,减少开支,又可以照顾老人们,要是看医生车接车送也容易。

为什么这里没有这样的房子?虽然大多数房子都是2200尺,但是外面的那个客厅永远是浪费的。不知道买新房时能否要求发展商改变格局,成本也是一样的。但是解决了很多家庭问题。老人们要是回大陆,楼下还可出租。多伦多法律是可以出租,不知渥太华如何。
 
“The wife's Mother said, ‘When you're dead, I'll dance in your grave.’ I said: ‘Good, I'm being buried at sea’.”

~ Les Dawson
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:D
 
老人家住楼下是最好的选择,大家又独立的空间。我在多伦多的房子楼下常年出租,我自己一家连小孩3口住楼上。楼下的租客只是交租的时候每月见我一次,平时我都见不到他们,非常的独立和有隐私,可惜渥太华找不到这种房子。
 
要想害一个男人就让他三妻四妾吧,即使累不死他也得烦死他!:o:D
 
明白了为什么皇帝大都是短命的。
 
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