[Survey] What do you call your in-laws?

[oread]

Mom/Dad or other?

 

[oread]

How do you feel about that? Natural? Weird? No particular feeling?

 

[有去无回]

俺没有觉得不对头,
俺一个很要好的同学带这老婆孩子在俺家玩的时候,俺们一口一个妈这吧, 一会儿妈那吧, 结果他也跟着俺们叫开妈怎么怎么吧... ... 被我们笑了个大大红脸 俺其实就是跟着领导叫出来的. 实在把它当个心事研究钻研讨论评价了,这事情就麻烦了,心理障碍也就都出来了. 那就肯定张不开口了.
什么时候中国人家能不叫称谓,直呼其名那就厉害了-----不过, 俺恐怕还不是很能干出来:smokin:

 

[oread]

But it is a big deal. For me, mom/dad refer to only those who had given me life and who had cared for me over the years. It's a sacred title.

How could some strangers waltz in and expect me to call them mom/dad?!

 

[oread]

I guess the underlying question is: how should we define "family"?

When one gets married, does your loved one's family become your family? Assuming that you do love your significant other (just playing safe here ), do you have to love his/her family as well?

 

[shusheng]

I believe calling the other party "mom/dad" usually is after
the couple have a child. (指着孩子叫)

It's actually getting easy, otherwise, the kids could be
very confused.

 

[*o*]

I felt a little weird about it especially that I really don't know much about them. However, I do think they deserve to be called mom/dad because they gave birth and raised my loved one. I show my appreciation and respect to them by calling them mom and dad.

 

[oread]

They already have your loved one calling them mom/dad, why do YOU want to call them that in addition to your loved one? Meanwhile, they did not bathe you, feed you, tend to you when you were sick like your own parents did, why should they deserve the same title as your parents, and it's not just any title, it's mom and dad, huh?

 

[farmboy]

Then what do you expect your honey to call your parents?

...

 

[oread]

My honey? 哈哈哈哈哈哈哈哈哈:lol::lol:
叔叔阿姨足矣。

 

[有去无回]

最初由 渐渐 发布

They already have your loved one calling them mom/dad, why do YOU want to call them that in addition to your loved one? Meanwhile, they did not bathe you, feed you, tend to you when you were sick like your own parents did, why should they deserve the same title as your parents, and it's not just any title, it's mom and dad, huh?

所以说吗，这事情要深究就没法说了
被寄养在别人家的孩子该怎么称呼呢？我有个朋友小时候在姨妈家长大，他自己决定跟表兄妹们一起喊姨妈：妈妈----用渐渐的说法也许就是因为他姨妈抚养了他？-----可他自己的解释就是：不希望自己跟家里其他的孩子不同…而长大以后回到自己妈妈的身边，他还是叫妈妈的，没有办法强调她是否配的问题。---------这样一扯，话题就远了。
不过，称呼很大程度上代表了一种人际关系，其中也夹杂着中国封建礼教中的礼仪，和随俗。叫公婆爸妈并不代表谁都可以让我叫爸叫妈；叫我的公婆爸妈，也不表明背叛了自己的父母。而且，我本人的感觉，称呼我的婆婆为妈，在很大程度上拉近了我们的距离，尤其是有分歧的时候，这一声称呼很重要:smokin:
而且我本人从来没有觉得他们不配，他们因为爱他们的儿子而善待我，以他们爱子女的方式爱我，也许跟他们的子女有差别，但肯定比爱任何一个叫他们叔叔阿姨的人要甚，这是我能体会得到的其中的不同(当然要求也高一些啦 )
当然，如何称呼公婆丈人丈母并不能说明事实上是否善待，尊重，甚至孝敬他们，说的好不如做得好，这点最重要

 

[oread]

说的就是爸妈这个称呼。我可以跟着朋友叫姑姑舅舅姨妈姨夫都不成问题。但爸妈对我是个特殊的称呼，可不是随便什么人都能取代的。以称呼而促进关系在我看来实在大可不必。况且没有生/养育之恩的怕是当不起这个称呼。

 

[oread]

再唠叨点题外话。其实男女家庭完全不必要在婚后彻底融汇成一家人。夫妻之间的磨合都要经过多年，更何况与对方的家人？爱一个人不一定要连同他/她的家人一同爱上。毕竟是两个家庭，彼此之间本来就有距离，不如索性保持这份距离：双方相敬如宾，客客气气，省却许多因为期望值过高而起的争执。难道不好吗？

 

[有去无回]

最初由 渐渐 发布
说的就是爸妈这个称呼。我可以跟着朋友叫姑姑舅舅姨妈姨夫都不成问题。但爸妈对我是个特殊的称呼，可不是随便什么人都能取代的。以称呼而促进关系在我看来实在大可不必。况且没有生/养育之恩的怕是当不起这个称呼。

当不当的起, 恐怕看个人的看法-----至少我认为他们生养了我的丈夫,因为爱他们的儿子而爱我,当得起.
称呼促进关系?-----本来就是婆媳关系,叫不叫妈, 不能改变什么,自己心理上没有障碍, 叫一声妈妈两个人都觉得亲切.说起他们的儿子, 他们的家事共同的家事,感觉都是非常亲近的. 心理上有障碍, 没叫出来还新里面嘀咕-----凭什么, 你配嘛?那些叫的人都有病嘛?要命有一条,让俺叫妈没有门----这也不必,碰见不计较的老人,一切都很好解决,叫阿姨?别客气, 谢谢, 请直呼我大名 碰见计较的老人呢,让他们自己(也许包括他们一方的子女)去承受吧:smokin:

 

[马甲甲]

是不是女同胞感情比较细腻的缘故

俺好像没什么感觉，跟着成为老婆的她叫妈就是了。
不过俺那丈人是step father，所以嘛就不叫爹了。
这里面好象有点渐渐说的那个意思了。