顽强的生命力

[OttawaHelp]

Ms. Yuanli Shi 在元月3日的一次车祸中(详情见Ottawa Citizen元月四日城市版报道),不幸身负重伤，经抢救，目前已脱离危险，但仍在医院重护治疗之中。

作为朋友和同事，在事故发生后，我们对她进行了多次探望和慰问，对她的母亲和女儿给予了一定的帮助和照顾；同时，也接到许多电话和询问。无论是她的朋友、同事，还是通过报纸了解此事的热心人士，大家都对她的不幸表示同情和遗憾，并希望能有适当的方式对她表示慰问，对她的家人给予援助。从而，在社区和大家的关心下，使她们度过目前的困境。

对此，也为了便于Ms. Yuanli Shi 的治疗、减少对家属情绪和生活的影响，我们同葛方雯会计师(Ms. Helen Ge) 取得了联系，并得到了她的支持。这样，所有慰问品，卡片、鲜花、或捐款（请用支票，付与(pay to) Yuanli Shi ），均可寄(递)到葛方雯之下列工作地址：

Ms. Helen Ge,
900 Dynes Road
Suite 101B,
Ottawa, K2C 3L6,
Attention: Yuanli Shi

我们将负责将慰问品转交Ms. Yuanli Shi 和她的家人。若有疑问或建议，请电邮 ottawahelp@gmail.com。


Ms. Yuanli Shi 的朋友及同事

 

[chieftain]

最初由 OttawaHelp 发布
为了便于Ms. Yuanli Shi 的治疗、减少对家属情绪和生活的影响，

这话说得有水平

 

[chieftain]

最初由 OttawaHelp 发布
Ms. Yuanli Shi 在元月3日的一次车祸中(详情见Ottawa Citizen元月四日城市版报道),不幸身负重伤，经抢救，目前已脱离危险，但仍在医院重护治疗之中。

作为朋友和同事，在事故发生后，我们对她进行了多次探望和慰问，对她的母亲和女儿给予了一定的帮助和照顾；同时，也接到许多电话和询问。无论是她的朋友、同事，还是通过报纸了解此事的热心人士，大家都对她的不幸表示同情和遗憾，并希望能有适当的方式对她表示慰问，对她的家人给予援助。从而，在社区和大家的关心下，使她们度过目前的困境。

对此，也为了便于Ms. Yuanli Shi 的治疗、减少对家属情绪和生活的影响，我们同葛方雯会计师(Ms. Helen Ge) 取得了联系，并得到了她的支持。这样，所有慰问品，卡片、鲜花、或捐款（请用支票，付与(pay to) Yuanli Shi ），均可寄(递)到葛方雯之下列工作地址：

Ms. Helen Ge,
900 Dynes Road
Suite 101B,
Ottawa, K2C 3L6,
Attention: Yuanli Shi

我们将负责将慰问品转交Ms. Yuanli Shi 和她的家人。若有疑问或建议，请电邮 ottawahelp@gmail.com。


Ms. Yuanli Shi 的朋友及同事

通篇没有表示感激，也许我没看到。

整个帖子象是对某些不知趣而主动犯贱的兔子们的警告。

 

[wjg18]

deep thinking...

 

[many]

RE: <<尊贵的高高在上的"求助"信>>

Sending flowers to accoutant's place sounds pretty funny. How could flowers with regards sent to the family disturb them? Even cards? sounds strange to me.

Nobody wants to be invasive to Ms.Shi and her family's privacy or information about Ms.Shi's medical condition. However, people offering help and sending wishes, at the same time are concerned with the progress Ms.Shi is making. The suddenly popped-up announcement are NOT very donor friendly and do not make people feel very comfortable. At least I am feeling something's being TRASHED. It's like some help is indeed annoying and what people are offering are nothing more than garbage.

I do not mind sending checks to her family representative. But there are several concerns I had and hope the person posted the previous message can help clarify:

Is this accountant appointed as Ms. Shi's Power Of Attorney?

Does this accountant charge a service fee/"commission" to the donation?

HOW do people know all the donation go to Ms. Shi and her family waiting for help(I understand the check is payable to the injuried person but there are many ways to cash out checks. Sorry, but it is true) ? IS anyone such as her family lawyer or any social worker supervising the whole procedure?

Every donor has the right to review the whole donating process and how the fund's spent. SINCE an accountant was elected as a family representative for this matter, donors do not have to have direct contact with Ms.Shi and her family. So, there should not be any embarrassment for the donor to access this specific financial information then. All in all, how the money's going to be spent is up to the donee and her family.

 

[beiyi]

Re: RE: <<尊贵的高高在上的"求助"信>>

最初由 many 发布
Sending flowers to accoutant's place sounds pretty funny. How could flowers with regards sent to the family disturb them? Even cards? sounds strange to me.

Nobody wants to be invasive to Ms.Shi and her family's privacy or information about Ms.Shi's medical condition. However, people offering help and sending wishes, at the same time are concerned with the progress Ms.Shi is making. The suddenly popped-up announcement are NOT very donor friendly and do not make people feel very comfortable. At least I am feeling something's being TRASHED. It's like some help is indeed annoying and what people are offering are nothing more than garbage.

I do not mind sending checks to her family representative. But there are several concerns I had and hope the person posted the previous message can help clarify:

Is this accountant appointed as Ms. Shi's Power Of Attorney?

Does this accountant charge a service fee/"commission" to the donation?

HOW do people know all the donation go to Ms. Shi and her family waiting for help(I understand the check is payable to the injuried person but there are many ways to cash out checks. Sorry, but it is true) ? IS anyone such as her family lawyer or any social worker supervising the whole procedure?

Every donor has the right to review the whole donating process and how the fund's spent. SINCE an accountant was elected as a family representative for this matter, donors do not have to have direct contact with Ms.Shi and her family. So, there should not be any embarrassment for the donor to access this specific financial information then. All in all, how the money's going to be spent is up to the donee and her family.

The main information the initial poster was going to send out is ask people to help the injured. Should we more focus on how to help Ms.Shi instead of criticise the wording. When you treat other people nicely,others will do it back to you. We all need help at some points in our life. Why don't give your help when people need.

 

[many]

Re: Re: RE: <<尊贵的高高在上的"求助"信>>

Well, I have absolutely NO big objection towards what you said. However, we simply have different interpretation and understanding of what's going on here.
Nobody is trying to criticize offering help to the injuried and her family. However, to maximize the positive impact and make sure the objective to support/help is fulfilled, there are certain issues that must be very clear to every single person who helped/is going to offer help. My earlier thread only listed a few of them. We just want the fact that the person/people handling this matter is/are responsible and respectable figures. Don't you think that's important?
Remember, "501smyth" raised this issue innocently in early December and called on public help, days later, one announcemnet was made on Ms. family's behalf. The underlying message of that announcment is basically: F*ck off (Sorry for the profanity but that's how it felt). More than one month later, another announcemnet popped up and the underlying message appears: Go away, leave your stuff to my agent.
Wow...
Another thing is quite important also: When you offer help, better not expect any reward. But if somehow people hate/dislike your help, insisting in doing so = stupidity. If you want other people to treat you nicely, the right sequence is,

1, build your own self-esteem and treat yourself nicely

2, treat other people REASONABLELY, offer help to people who are in need and SINCERE

3, Stop when people take how you are for granted and say no when you feel your generosity is abused.

4, if it turns out people are not treating you nicely, well, different creature then and learn a lesson.

最初由 beiyi 发布


The main information the initial poster was going to send out is ask people to help the injured. Should we more focus on how to help Ms.Shi instead of criticise the wording. When you treat other people nicely,others will do it back to you. We all need help at some points in our life. Why don't give your help when people need.