[转贴] 回国的感觉：搭错车的移民

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时差倒的飞快，2个晚上就适应了；街道依然是那么乱和脏，只是又多了很多新建筑；商店的人依然那 么多，商品也更便宜了。

不同的是朋友们的话题我已经插不上嘴了，在中国我已经失去了出国前的身份和心态，现在的我是身上没几块人民币，银行里也没几刀美金，在人前装作出国归来的样子，其实心里最知道自己的底了，想买个新款的手机已经暗地盘算了好几天了。快40的人了，瞎折腾了好几年，又回到了起点。

不过这些都是打掉牙往肚里吞的事，这次回来我已经很难说是否再回加拿大了，国内的机会要远大于加拿大的，给我最直接的感觉是国内汽车工业的发展，真可以用迅猛来形容，这让我想到了80-90年代国内家电业的发展，现在洗衣机、电冰箱谁还买国外的品牌呀？可以想象10年之后中国汽车业和制造业的样子。中国经济从80年代开始，可以说轮着在几个行业里迅猛的发展，外贸、建
筑、家电、证卷、电信、交通等，现在是汽车业。

有点扯远了，我想说的是对个人来说如何选择自己的路，当你身在一个迅猛发展的行业里，你会身不由己的从其发展中获得好处，想想证卷、电信业当年年底的分红和奖金吧。可能你自己觉得那是应该的，不过你应该感激自己当初上对了车。

我总愿意拿坐车比喻人生，人在一生中总要换几次或几十次人生的车，小学、中学、大学，工作后的第一个单位等等；有些人因为某种原因坐上了好车、快车，比同龄的人快行了一步，但他自往往认识不到这点，总以为是自己能力出众或刻苦努力换来的，今后只要同样努力还会获得成功的，于是乎轻易的就决定下车，换车，但不幸的是换了辆破车、慢车。历经几年的奋斗发觉自己还是达不到原来的成功，其实失败的真正原因在于换错了车。

我总在想来到加拿大的移民们是否换错了车？！

从我自己来看，我感觉去加拿大是换错了车，原来国内我在IT业，发展很快，可自从到了加拿大后，我发觉无论自己怎么努力，最多只能找份专业工作混饭吃，而且丢了工作后，连混饭吃都很难。所以我现在想做的就是重新换上快车，我已经加入了致力于汽车业领域的一个新公司，希望自己将来能从其发展中分杯羹。也愿加拿大的移民朋友能从我的话里获得点感悟

 

[farmer]

 

[坐看云起]

完全是这样的

 

[oread]

不懂。

 

[美丽世界的孤儿]

最初由 小贱贱 发布
不懂。

也许过几年，你就会懂了，这与人的人生阅历有关，且和“读书“无关！

“从我自己来看，我感觉去加拿大是换错了车“。。。

可能有很多人都是同样的情况吧！包括我。。。

 

[oread]

I've lived in Canada for almost as long as I did in China, so I think I have a little bit knowledge of what it is like in both countries. For me freedom and democracy are the most basic human rights, they are as important as the air we breath or the water we drink everyday. And if you have the slightest idea of what they truly mean, you'd probably won't be patronizing me here.

Also in case you regret to come to this country, then go back where the "actions" are and catch the "right bus".

 

[hinchey]

最初由 小贱贱 发布
I've lived in Canada for almost as long as I did in China, so I think I have a little bit knowledge of what it is like in both countries.

I am not sure how old you are, but if you are only 30's or even younger, it means that you came here years ago in your teenage, so how could you understand the feeling of many of the new immigrants who gave up the good opportunities of career development in China, and came over here in Canada and can not find the job, and even facing the pressure to keep the basic living standard to his own or his family..., So, the longer you live here, the harder for you to know what the real China is like now.

For me freedom and democracy are the most basic human rights, they are as important as the air we breath or the water we drink everyday.

I don't think new immigrants came over here just for pursuing "freedom and democracy", who really care about it before the living is not stable, for me, actually, I don't feel it here at all.

Also in case you regret to come to this country, then go back where the "actions" are and catch the "right bus".

This is a good point,that guy expressed his action clearly in his article and good luck to him.

 

[美丽世界的孤儿]

最初由 hinchey 发布

I am not sure how old you are, but if you are only 30's or even younger, it means that you came here years ago in your teenage, so how could you understand the feeling of many of the new immigrants who gave up the good opportunities of career development in China, and came over here in Canada and can not find the job, and even facing the pressure to keep the basic living standard to his own or his family..., So, the longer you live here, the harder for you to know what the real China is like now.


I don't think new immigrants came over here just for pursuing "freedom and democracy", who really care about it before the living is not stable, for me, actually, I don't feel it here at all.



This is a good point,that guy expressed his action clearly in his article and good luck to him.

完全赞同你所说的。

不了解新移民真正情况的人，或只是从加拿大的一个“好的“片面来看待“移民生活“的人，是无法体会到这篇文章中的那些新移民的无奈的！

尤其是放弃了国内的好工作和好生活，来到这里却只能人为地“降低“自己的生活标准。这种生活的苦闷是那些在加拿大长大的“小加拿大孩子“们所无法体会到的。

再说一遍：楼上的，的确讲得好！

 

[CFCFAN]

Agree with hinchey!

 

[oread]

hinchey: I appreciate your reply! And you are probably right in saying that many immigrants come here in the pursuit for a more stable (or better in a simplest way of saying) life.

What puzzles me is the endless whining. The way I see it is simple (then again, maybe I'm not old enough to have to consider all, but bear with me): if you don't like this country, go after the "other" stuff that excites you! You don't HAVE TO stay in this country, and yes you do have that choice. Why stay here if you hate every minute of it? It is beyond my wildest imagination, hence the "I don't understand" phrase.

Coming to Canada is a choice for many new immigrants, and with choice comes consequences. While many immigrants face the initial hardship with courage and grace, some, not many but some with a loud voice, keep whining! Instead of facing the choice they made like a mature person, all they could do is criticizing everything that this country has been offering. Their eyes are blinded by the "glamour" they used to enjoy in China, however totally forget what made them to make the decision to come here in the first place.

Canada is not a perfect country, but don't you think you owe it to yourself to just give it a chance? Otherwise why bother staying here at all?

 

[oread]

And yes, I think the author of the article made a right choice: he tried and didn't like it, so he went back in search for more exciting opportunities. Well good luck!

 

[Kent以东首帅哥]

有些同志确实过得比以前困难,要不让他们上网发发牢骚,发泄一下情绪,那也太没人性是不.

不过发完之后,该干嘛还得干嘛去,世界不会为你而变.

 

[辟邪]

原谅小贱贱吧

 

[潜水艇]

移民如同新生，难度是大。尤其是原来在国内混得不错的，更是失去的多些，得到的
更显得少。这里有许多国内没有的，国内也有这里没有的。得失就看个人感觉。
说自己吧。在国内经商，对政府官员警察等不得已曲意逢迎，总觉得钱挣了，尊严
也卖完了。移民了，又觉得生活不易，一切关系需要从头开始建立。开始觉得很孤
独，也考虑值不值的问题。最后决定为了防止国内万一动乱，还是入了加拿大籍再
说。至少给自己留条后路。

 

[潜水艇]

我倒是欣赏小贱贱的生活态度。