陷入婚外情，怎么办？
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虽然我能理解你很痛苦，但是帮不了你。除了时间还有坚强，没有人能帮助解决这个问题。你真的应该move on, this is the right thing you have to do 但是不为让他被惩罚，是为所有的人，因为爱过不悔。还有，请你不要那样想，也不要那样说自己。爱要有尊严，有尊严不代表我们不会为它付出生命，但是不是用你的这种方式，而是像TITANIC里那样，当我们真的需要为爱放弃生命时候，所以请你留着生命为真正值得的人。还有，不论是受到伤害，还是经历挫折，请你不要放弃心里那些美好的东西，不要不相信它们。 最后，每个人都必须对自己当时所作的选择带来的结果负责，不怨不悔。
其实教训惩罚都说得太重了，说代价比较合适。
当你选择一份感情时，你同时选择了要为其付出的代价。
不过应该欣慰的是，你的生命中有多了一个故事，你自己的故事。要记住，当你白发苍苍的时候，所有名利将如云烟淡去，逐渐清晰的只是你的情感经历。而这些经历中更温暖的部分是你如何地爱过别人，而不是别人如何爱你….
就想象你在一个计划好的旅程，突然兴致所致偏离计划来到一处人迹罕至的海滩，拾到若干美丽的贝壳儿。虽然美丽的景色使你留恋，你知道你必须离开….
离开时你不会砸碎那些美丽的贝壳儿，多年之后偶然翻出，它们会让你回忆起你生命中一段心灵战栗的时光….
送你一首歌，祝你早日恢复阳光日子
爱的代价
还记得年少时的梦吗
象朵永远不凋零的花
陪我经过那风吹雨打
看世事无常
看沧桑变化
那些为爱所付出的代价
是永远都难忘的啊
所有真心的痴心的话
永在我心中
虽然已没有他
走吧
走吧
人总要学着自己长大
走吧
走吧
人生难免经历苦痛挣扎
走吧
走吧
为自己的心找一个家
也曾伤心流泪
也曾黯然心碎
这是爱的代价
也许我偶尔还是会想他
偶尔难免会惦记着他
就当他是个老朋友啊
也让我心疼
也让我牵挂
只是我心中不再有火花
让往事都随风去吧
所有真心的痴心的话
仍在我心中
虽然已没有他
走吧
走吧
人总要学着自己长大
走吧
走吧
人生难免经历苦痛挣扎
走吧
走吧
为自己的心找一个家
也曾伤心流泪
也曾黯然心碎
这是爱的代价
为自己的心找一个家
也曾伤心流泪
也曾黯然心碎
这是爱的代价
也曾伤心流泪
也曾黯然心碎
这是爱的代价
http://m2.zx.bbvod.net/music/AuthorSpecial.aspx?id=575
当你选择一份感情时，你同时选择了要为其付出的代价。
不过应该欣慰的是，你的生命中有多了一个故事，你自己的故事。要记住，当你白发苍苍的时候，所有名利将如云烟淡去，逐渐清晰的只是你的情感经历。而这些经历中更温暖的部分是你如何地爱过别人，而不是别人如何爱你….
就想象你在一个计划好的旅程，突然兴致所致偏离计划来到一处人迹罕至的海滩，拾到若干美丽的贝壳儿。虽然美丽的景色使你留恋，你知道你必须离开….
离开时你不会砸碎那些美丽的贝壳儿，多年之后偶然翻出，它们会让你回忆起你生命中一段心灵战栗的时光….
送你一首歌，祝你早日恢复阳光日子
爱的代价
还记得年少时的梦吗
象朵永远不凋零的花
陪我经过那风吹雨打
看世事无常
看沧桑变化
那些为爱所付出的代价
是永远都难忘的啊
所有真心的痴心的话
永在我心中
虽然已没有他
走吧
走吧
人总要学着自己长大
走吧
走吧
人生难免经历苦痛挣扎
走吧
走吧
为自己的心找一个家
也曾伤心流泪
也曾黯然心碎
这是爱的代价
也许我偶尔还是会想他
偶尔难免会惦记着他
就当他是个老朋友啊
也让我心疼
也让我牵挂
只是我心中不再有火花
让往事都随风去吧
所有真心的痴心的话
仍在我心中
虽然已没有他
走吧
走吧
人总要学着自己长大
走吧
走吧
人生难免经历苦痛挣扎
走吧
走吧
为自己的心找一个家
也曾伤心流泪
也曾黯然心碎
这是爱的代价
为自己的心找一个家
也曾伤心流泪
也曾黯然心碎
这是爱的代价
也曾伤心流泪
也曾黯然心碎
这是爱的代价
http://m2.zx.bbvod.net/music/AuthorSpecial.aspx?id=575
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爱本来就是执著，痴心甚至是贪心的，这是爱本来的样子，一点都没有觉得这样不好。爱的时候应该全心全意地爱，它并不只是路边的一道风景，但是当需要放手的时候，也要全心真心地离开，带着好的心愿离开，也许做不好，但是要努力做。这样才是对爱负责。
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小狐狸对小王子说的话 zt
(may not exactly related to this topic, just posting one article here)
看了“小王子”，印象最深刻的就是那只小狐狸对小王子说的话，我把这只等爱的小狐狸的话一直抄在日记里，因为我就是那只等爱的小狐狸,等待有一天那个人把我驯服，于是他变成了我的unique，我变成了他的unique, 他必须对我负责，因为他驯服了我...
It was then that the fox appeared.
"Good morning", said the fox.
"Good morning"...
......
"NO", said the little prince. "I am looking for friends. Waht does that mean--'tame'?"
"It is an act often neglected", said the fox, "it means to estavblish ties."
"To establish ties?"
"Just that," said the fox. "To me, you are still nothing more than a little boy who is just like a hundred thousand other little boys. And I have no need of you. And you, on your part, have no need of me. To you, I am nothing more than a fox like a hundred thousand other foxes. But if you tame me, then we shall need each other. to me, you will be unique in all the world. To you, I shall be unique in all the world..."
......
"What must I do to tame you?" asked the little prince.
"you must be very patient," replied the fox. "First you will sit down, at a little distance from me-- like that--in the grass. I shall look at you out of the corner of my eye, and you will say nothing. Words are the source of misunderstandings. but you will sit closer to me, everyday"...
So the little prince tamed the fox. And when the hour of his departure drew near--
"Ah," said the fox, "I shall cry."
"It is you rown fault," said the little prince, "I never wished you any sort of harm, but you wanted me to tame you..."
"yes, it is so", said the fox.
"then it has done you no good at all!"
"It has done me good," said the fox, "because of the wheat fields." and then he added,
"go and look again at the roses. you will undertstand now that your is unqiue in all the world. Then come back to say goodbye to me, and I will tell you a present pf a secret".
the little prince went away, to look again at the roses.
"You are beautiful, but you are empty. One could not die for you. To be sure, an ordinary passenger would think that my rose looked just like you-- the rose that belongs to me. But in herself alone she is more important than all the hundreds of you other roses: BECAUSE it is she that I have watered; BECAUSE it is she aht I have put under the galss globe; BECAUSE it is she that I have sheltered behind the screen; BECAUSE it is for her that I have killed the caterpillas; BECAUSE it is she that I have listened to, when she grumbled or boasted, or even something when she said nothing. BECAUSE she is MY rose."
And he went back to meet the fox.
"Good bye," he said
"Goodbye," said the fox, "and now here is my secret: It is only with the heart one can see rightly; What is essential is invisible to the eyes".
"It is the time you have wasted on your rose that makes your rose so important."
"Men have forgotten this truth," said the fox, "but you must not forget it. you became responsible, forever, for what you have tamed. you are responsible for your rose..."
the little prince repeated, "I am responsible for my rose," so he would be sure to remember。
爱情里那么多不负责的人，因为他/她们没有用心看，他/她们不知道不懂得不珍惜，如果你驯服了她/他，你就要对她/他负责。可是这个世界上，还是有那么多不负责的人，还是有那么多伤心人。
但我要做一只等爱的负责的小狐狸，熊熊的迎接着驯服和被驯服
(may not exactly related to this topic, just posting one article here)
看了“小王子”，印象最深刻的就是那只小狐狸对小王子说的话，我把这只等爱的小狐狸的话一直抄在日记里，因为我就是那只等爱的小狐狸,等待有一天那个人把我驯服，于是他变成了我的unique，我变成了他的unique, 他必须对我负责，因为他驯服了我...
It was then that the fox appeared.
"Good morning", said the fox.
"Good morning"...
......
"NO", said the little prince. "I am looking for friends. Waht does that mean--'tame'?"
"It is an act often neglected", said the fox, "it means to estavblish ties."
"To establish ties?"
"Just that," said the fox. "To me, you are still nothing more than a little boy who is just like a hundred thousand other little boys. And I have no need of you. And you, on your part, have no need of me. To you, I am nothing more than a fox like a hundred thousand other foxes. But if you tame me, then we shall need each other. to me, you will be unique in all the world. To you, I shall be unique in all the world..."
......
"What must I do to tame you?" asked the little prince.
"you must be very patient," replied the fox. "First you will sit down, at a little distance from me-- like that--in the grass. I shall look at you out of the corner of my eye, and you will say nothing. Words are the source of misunderstandings. but you will sit closer to me, everyday"...
So the little prince tamed the fox. And when the hour of his departure drew near--
"Ah," said the fox, "I shall cry."
"It is you rown fault," said the little prince, "I never wished you any sort of harm, but you wanted me to tame you..."
"yes, it is so", said the fox.
"then it has done you no good at all!"
"It has done me good," said the fox, "because of the wheat fields." and then he added,
"go and look again at the roses. you will undertstand now that your is unqiue in all the world. Then come back to say goodbye to me, and I will tell you a present pf a secret".
the little prince went away, to look again at the roses.
"You are beautiful, but you are empty. One could not die for you. To be sure, an ordinary passenger would think that my rose looked just like you-- the rose that belongs to me. But in herself alone she is more important than all the hundreds of you other roses: BECAUSE it is she that I have watered; BECAUSE it is she aht I have put under the galss globe; BECAUSE it is she that I have sheltered behind the screen; BECAUSE it is for her that I have killed the caterpillas; BECAUSE it is she that I have listened to, when she grumbled or boasted, or even something when she said nothing. BECAUSE she is MY rose."
And he went back to meet the fox.
"Good bye," he said
"Goodbye," said the fox, "and now here is my secret: It is only with the heart one can see rightly; What is essential is invisible to the eyes".
"It is the time you have wasted on your rose that makes your rose so important."
"Men have forgotten this truth," said the fox, "but you must not forget it. you became responsible, forever, for what you have tamed. you are responsible for your rose..."
the little prince repeated, "I am responsible for my rose," so he would be sure to remember。
爱情里那么多不负责的人，因为他/她们没有用心看，他/她们不知道不懂得不珍惜，如果你驯服了她/他，你就要对她/他负责。可是这个世界上，还是有那么多不负责的人，还是有那么多伤心人。
但我要做一只等爱的负责的小狐狸，熊熊的迎接着驯服和被驯服
我想我们是在讨论不同层面的东西...
你对爱情的理解是纯洁的，衷心祝福你能找到这份爱。
我相信你会的。只是请你十年之后再想想我说的话，也许那时你会有不同的感触。
I love a rose in a garden, she is a beauty but lives in a shadow.
It is she that I have put under the glass globe; It is she that I have sheltered behind the screen; It is for her that I have killed the caterpillars; It is she that I have listened to, when she grumbled or boasted, or even something when she said nothing.
BUT she is not MY rose .....
She is as innocent as you are and I am as kind as I am, so nothing happened except a shiny pearl left and kept in my heart...
I wish all you love dreaming girls find your own prince and live happily ever after.
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