孩子两岁了还不会说话怎么办?

[moose]

My son is more than 2 years old but still can not speak. He does not even say "mom".

Both my husband and I are very busy everyday so only have 1 or 2 hours with my son. His grandmother takes care of him during daytime but she does not talk much. Most of the time, my son just plays in a silent big house. Now, he goes to the playground after supper. I guess the reason for his problem is that there is no language environment in our family and we did not take the time to teach him how to speak when he was still 1 or 1.5 years old. We missed the best time to teach him to start to use language to express himself. My husband and I were misled by many people who said that "smart child speaks late" and "boys speak later than girls"

We already went to the "first word progrom" (supported by CHEO)and had a screening test which already proved that my son has language development problem. However, we need to wait for a couple of months before we can have a full assessment. And we need to wait for more than one year to get treatment (covered by OHIP, private treatment could be sooner).

I checked through website and found that many doctors say that it is critical for language development before 3 years old. After 3 years old, it is very difficult to correct a child's language problem and probably it will also cause other serious problems.

Any mom or dad could give me some advice or suggestions?
Thank you very much

melanie
I can be reached by phone at 613-692-9288 (usually after 8pm during weekdays and anytime during weekend)

 

[Ling2000]

you still have chance

I think you should spend more time with him while you still have chance. He still have one more year to be 3, right? Nothing is more important than having a healthy kid.

 

[Teddy]

Besides of the long-waiting treatments, are you both taking action to spend more time with your kid and talk to him much more right now?

 

[yuoop]

我认为你和你的丈夫要多抽些时间给你的儿子了，而他的奶奶也要多和他说话才行。大人不说话，只是去PLAYGROUND，交流还是很少的。如果奶奶觉得没有话说，那就给宝宝读读故事，放些宝宝的电视节目和CD。读故事对宝宝的语言和智力是非常好的开发。做妈妈的应该每天至少给宝宝讲一次故事。我家宝宝在8个月的时候很爱听故事，我每天要讲2个小时故事，真把我累死，我不讲，她就不高兴。现在小家伙语言表达能力超强，歌唱的也好，中文英文歌曲还会自己编歌曲。我不是教育专家，但是我觉得要想要宝宝说话，一是爱心+耐心，二是多和宝宝交流，读读故事，儿歌，唐诗。多多鼓励宝宝，慢慢教，做游戏似的教他，不要逼迫他。你和宝宝爸爸要多付出一些了，不然以后不光是语言问题，宝宝和人的交流问题，心理问题，更难解决了。现在宝宝2岁，你们还有1年时间把前面2年没有做的事情做了，不然3岁以后是事倍功半！

 

[wiki]

我觉得多跟孩子交流讲话就行。我女儿讲话也比较晚，22个月才开始说话，但一说就停不住了。她现在中文英文都讲得很好。
多跟孩子说，一对一地交流，很快就能赶上的，别灰心。

 

[Ayin_Ottawa]

送孩子到幼儿园，要尽快!

当年俺的大姑娘也不怎么说话。俺俩就让她去了幼儿园，结果她的言语是提高了很多。不过，俺现在还时时地后悔，因为她的语言能力就不如她妹妹的好。

这就是老人带孩子的一个缺点之一。放下成本的考量，让他到他的group to play & learn!

 

[PublicOne]

My daugther is 3.5 years old. I consider she is normal in language development now. She talks a lot in Chinese & English, more in English, sometime she use both languages in one sentence.
I was worried her speech when she was 2. At that time she only spoke some words in French, English, and Chinese, not a full sentence. I went for the "first word progrom" for her in March. They didn't give me any opinion, so I applied for a full assessment in CHEO. I am still waiting. In the meantime, I find her language had big improvment since then. I guess it might be the problem due to the multi-language she met. She was in a French daycare when she was 9 months until she was 2.5. In that period she she also watched TV in French and English, so she could speak some words in 3 languages, bubbling more in French. After that we moved to Ottawa, then she is in a bilingual daycare centre (most cases in English). After 1 year, she forgot all the French, and she can speak English and Chinese. Right now I have no worry about her speech issue, but if I recieve the accessment appointment, since it is free, I will bring her to do a testing, in the case they might have a better suggestion.
Moose, does your son's grandmother speak the same language as you do?
As other people suggested you might put your son in a daycare place that would push him to speak. Also let him watch a little TV, there is a very good kid's channel called Treehouse. My daugther love it, she likes to talk about the charactors.
There is a preschool program for 2.5 years old. It's a haif day free program. I am not sure the exact requirement for age, and how many days a week. This is a play and learning program for families who can take kids during the day. I would suggest you start this program first since it is free and the grandmother is available to pick up. Normally it starts September, I don't know if it is still in time for registration. And also you need to find out if there is one around your house area or somewhere easy to take bus.

 

[benji]

Have you stopped "being very busy everyday so only have 1 or 2 hours with my son" since you realize there might be a problem with his language development? If you haven't, . There is no blame on grandparents who already sacrifice their lifestyle here.
Best treatment is at least one of parents starting to spent more time with the child, telling stories, reading books, outside playing and explaining the world to the child....

Many moms may say "no worries" for your comfort. While, for kid's good, I have to say, I do know quite a few parents are not that good luck and ended up the regrets for the rest of their life.

 

[GYGY]

i think the easiest and best way to improve the language skill for the little kid is to send the kid to the daycare/homecare and let him/her to stay with other same age kids. I have two kids and my elder son stays with his grandma for 3 years and my daughter was sent to homecare at 11 months and then went to daycare. I found my two kids have very very big difference in all skills, (language, social,etc.). My friend's boy was very quiet and shy before going to homecare, but he became very talky and social after stayed in homecare for a few months.
As some mothers here said, if the kid stay at home with caregivers, they still can be OK and active. But comparing to the children in daycares, the caregivers must take more effort. Especially in CANADA, the kid can only stay at home for long winter in a big house. If the kid is naturally quiet and shy, staying alone with grandparents at home will cause big problem.
Many children stay at home with caregivers are Ok and active. But some children has more problems comparing to the children in the daycares. So you had better talk with your doctor and soem educators and get some advise. If you can get a budget, yo can think about to send the kid to a homecare/daycare, even a few hours in schools a day is more helpful. I know some parents sent their children to school for half a day.
Don't worry about. Your kid is not so old now he will be OK.

 

[Ayin_Ottawa]

Have you stopped "being very busy everyday so only have 1 or 2 hours with my son" since you realize there might be a problem with his language development? If you haven't, . There is no blame on grandparents who already sacrifice their lifestyle here.
Best treatment is at least one of parents starting to spent more time with the child, telling stories, reading books, outside playing and explaining the world to the child....

Many moms may say "no worries" for your comfort. While, for kid's good, I have to say, I do know quite a few parents are not that good luck and ended up the regrets for the rest of their life.

I did not mean to criticize grand parents for their effort and sacrifice. However, I have to point out the fact a young kid, especially only one kid, is a usually lonely kid in a family with all adults, parents and/or grand parents.

About 14 years ago when I was in US as a student, my elder daughter did not talk much since both of us were not very talkative, especially to her. Financially speaking, we were very poor. But, we managed to pay daycare so that she could have a social environment where she could play and learn with her peers. That decision was almost correct since I sometimes regret that we did not do it earlier.

Personally, I would not expect parents and/or grand-parents would change dramatically to benefit this boy, however I do hope that LZ would consider getting him into his own world of peers so that he can talk, communicate with his buddies to improve his language skills.

Good luck and God bless, LZ.

 

[ynnus]

还是要大人多花心思和孩子说话呀，你和老公即使每天只能陪1，2个小时，那更要抓紧这点时间和孩子交流啊。家里老人也要给孩子讲故事啊什么的

如果不知道说什么，那就带孩子出去，指着每样东西，告诉他，这是太阳，鸟鸟，草是绿的，天使蓝的，等等等等

我的2个儿子都没送过幼儿园，但是对语言我和老公是下功夫了的，老大开口也不早，2岁多也就猜开始学学动物叫，后来一点点越来越快了，现在4岁多了，法语英语中文都很流利，还能认识一百多个中文字

我以前也不是个话多的人，自己带老大的时候，也是不知道跟他说什么，就给他讲故事书，后来自己也越练话越多了。。。。现在基本和我儿子一样，也成话唠了。。。。女人的唠叨就是这么磨练出来的。。。。

请问你的小孩怎么学的法语阿， 没上过幼儿园， 那是自己教的吗？

 

[wiki]

我不是很同意把孩子送幼儿园就解决问题了。
两岁的孩子很少通过语言交流的。而且这个年纪的孩子还处于parallel play阶段，就是能排排坐玩，但很少有交流。
语言的发展还是要靠跟大人的交流，特别是跟主要照顾孩子的大人交流。讲故事，带出去玩，参加playgroup都是好方法。
当然每个孩子的发展不一样，楼主也不用特别担心。总之我觉得为时未晚，一切都还来得及补救。

 

[ocean_deep]

"我不是很同意把孩子送幼儿园就解决问题了。两岁的孩子很少通过语言交流的。而且这个年纪的孩子还处于parallel play阶段，就是能排排坐玩，但很少有交流。
语言的发展还是要靠跟大人的交流，特别是跟主要照顾孩子的大人交流。讲故事，带出去玩，参加playgroup都是好方法。"

I totally agree the above comments. You have to have at least a kind of communication with your kid; visually when he is very little, then gradually enriched into verbal. Let kid be the center of the converstaion is my experiences, encourage him, listen to him, expecting him perform better and better, but little by little. Encouraging takes more effort than teaching.

It's never too late. Do not hurry, do not stop.

 

[devilsponge]

"我不是很同意把孩子送幼儿园就解决问题了。两岁的孩子很少通过语言交流的。而且这个年纪的孩子还处于parallel play阶段，就是能排排坐玩，但很少有交流。
语言的发展还是要靠跟大人的交流，特别是跟主要照顾孩子的大人交流。讲故事，带出去玩，参加playgroup都是好方法。"

I totally agree the above comments. You have to have at least a kind of communication with your kid; visually when he is very little, then gradually enriched into verbal. Let kid be the center of the converstaion is my experiences, encourage him, listen to him, expecting him perform better and better, but little by little. Encouraging takes more effort than teaching.

It's never too late. Do not hurry, do not stop.

同意，我也不觉得把孩子扔给daycare就万事大吉了， daycare的责任在于照看，而不是教育， 当然，不能否定daycare能帮助孩子的融入，交流能力。 孩子成型和父母的塑造是分不开的， 如果以为daycare能够代替父母的责任和义务，那就真有点naive。 忙或者poor都不是什么借口，每天半个小时的故事，交流，value教育多吗？
最后请楼主不要急或自责，重要的是如何从现在起handle这个情况， 你已经有了个很好的开头。

 

[babybaby]

我不是很同意把孩子送幼儿园就解决问题了。
两岁的孩子很少通过语言交流的。而且这个年纪的孩子还处于parallel play阶段，就是能排排坐玩，但很少有交流。
语言的发展还是要靠跟大人的交流，特别是跟主要照顾孩子的大人交流。讲故事，带出去玩，参加playgroup都是好方法。
当然每个孩子的发展不一样，楼主也不用特别担心。总之我觉得为时未晚，一切都还来得及补救。

同意。送去幼儿园，还会有一个中、英文的问题，孩子会更开不了口。我老大1岁就送了幼儿园，结果2岁多也不说话，老师就认为是：因为是双语环境，孩子需要更多时间消化吸收后，才能开口。老二是1岁多开口说话的，说的都是中文。4岁开始上学，上午上学校，下午去幼儿园，在开始的一个月里，他一句话也没说！
所以能帮助你孩子的人，还是做父母的你们。和孩子说话，给他讲故事，让他看电视都可以。