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我爸妈是叫他们来这探亲都不大愿意,路途太远,很辛苦的,老年人来这过得有比国内舒服吗?尤其是身体不好的,看病多不方便
苦恼--是否应申请父母来这边
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For your information and reference, I tell you a real story here:
I have friends who are a couples, classmates in same universities in China, majoring in medicine both, came to the States about 20 years ago and have lived there in the USA till now.
The couples are all Doctors with very high incomes, over 500k annually that time 10 years ago, and possibly 1 million now , living in a huge house with 8 bedrooms, over 6000 sft.
One day I got a call from them and they told me that all their 4 parents living with them together to look after their 3 kids and doing house works in home. They were so excited and happy that time, seeming to live in heaven!
After a few months, I got another call from this couples in the voice of cry, told me that they just came back from hell.
Now you guys must know the results of the story, and do not wate your time to let me continue, right ?
Okay, let us ask that
Is this couples rich?
Yes.
Do they have a good codition and facilities to live?
Yes.
Are the husband or wife well educated?
Yes, both of them have Phd. degrees.
The results is that there WERE fights every DAY, between the parents of two SIDES, between the parents-in-law with the son-in-law, and/or daughter-in-law, ..... balabala.
Finally, all the parents went back to China.
Fortunately, the marriges was saved at last.
I guss, if you don't mind that
This is the best result you can get !
No matter how nice you are, and or how lucky you are !
I have friends who are a couples, classmates in same universities in China, majoring in medicine both, came to the States about 20 years ago and have lived there in the USA till now.
The couples are all Doctors with very high incomes, over 500k annually that time 10 years ago, and possibly 1 million now , living in a huge house with 8 bedrooms, over 6000 sft.
One day I got a call from them and they told me that all their 4 parents living with them together to look after their 3 kids and doing house works in home. They were so excited and happy that time, seeming to live in heaven!
After a few months, I got another call from this couples in the voice of cry, told me that they just came back from hell.
Now you guys must know the results of the story, and do not wate your time to let me continue, right ?
Okay, let us ask that
Is this couples rich?
Yes.
Do they have a good codition and facilities to live?
Yes.
Are the husband or wife well educated?
Yes, both of them have Phd. degrees.
The results is that there WERE fights every DAY, between the parents of two SIDES, between the parents-in-law with the son-in-law, and/or daughter-in-law, ..... balabala.
Finally, all the parents went back to China.
Fortunately, the marriges was saved at last.
I guss, if you don't mind that
This is the best result you can get !
No matter how nice you are, and or how lucky you are !
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要看人，如果这四个老人有脾气不好的，相处不好是会有麻烦，如果他们可以相处好，还可以互相照顾呢，也不错，而且作为中国人，我还是觉得能一家团团圆圆的在一起是最好的
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越说我越担心了。。有时候倒不是性格问题。。是生活习惯和两代人的思想差异，何况我们都出国了独立的也早。。更难和父母住一块了
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真要是一碗水端平的话，那得另外买2处房子，供养2家老人，真得需要相当经济实力。
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首先真的再想2年吧，现在也不让申请了。另外申请条件够了吗？因为现在是等于三个家庭加上一个未成年（你妹妹），你们的家庭收入要养7个人，如果两个人没孩子的话.........
你妹妹现在10几岁，等到大学毕业了能过来好不错了，你也知道国内大学毕业过来找工作基本不可能，除非她学厨师或者其他服务型专业，那样还的学一阵子英语，所以过来的开始几年应该没什么收入，还是得靠你的～～
父母年纪大了，过来还让他们工作？？那还是让他们在国内享福吧～～忍心让爸妈洗碗，炒菜照顾月子吗？都是辛苦又累的活，加拿大没人干的活才能轮到他们啊.........
你妹妹现在10几岁，等到大学毕业了能过来好不错了，你也知道国内大学毕业过来找工作基本不可能，除非她学厨师或者其他服务型专业，那样还的学一阵子英语，所以过来的开始几年应该没什么收入，还是得靠你的～～
父母年纪大了，过来还让他们工作？？那还是让他们在国内享福吧～～忍心让爸妈洗碗，炒菜照顾月子吗？都是辛苦又累的活，加拿大没人干的活才能轮到他们啊.........
