I don't know what to do, please help

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最初由 gdntfrank 发布


你结婚了么?世上从来没有不对等的爱.爱要靠实力争取.婚姻其实是一场终生的赛跑.一方落后,都无法继续.退路是不存在的.妥协只有使天平更加倾斜.
我建议她的父母来,不是让双方父母同时来吵架的.反正男方的父母就来半年,空半年可以让女方父母来.也让那男的设身处地地尝尝LZ的辛苦.没什么不好.
你的义愤没什么道理.大家都是在帮忙,没人在看热闹.观点不同而已.

I don't why people think the problem is from the realtionship of parents and partner. I do believe the issue comes from the couple. It is his/her responsibility to ensure that parents won't jeapordize the young couple's relationship. I did not see much unreasonable request from the girl. She just want to be the part of the family.
 
抄一段圣经和这位姐妹分享:

哥林多前书(十三章四到八节,论爱):

13:4?是?久忍耐,又有恩慈;?是不嫉妒;?是不自掌,不?狂,
13:5不做害羞的事,不求自己的益?,不蒺易办怒,不?算人的?,
13:6不喜?不柳,只喜?真理;
13:7凡事包容,凡事相信,凡事盼望,凡事忍耐。
13:8?是永不止息。
 
最初由 PQPQ 发布
离了婚后,你就是secondhand 还好是 one owner
再找一个是不是比这个好?
这是个问题

PQPQ you are really disgusting.
People should grow from their bad experience.
 
最初由 农民工 发布
抄一段圣经和这位姐妹分享:

哥林多前书(十三章四到六节,论爱):

13:4?是?久忍耐,又有恩慈;?是不嫉妒;?是不自掌,不?狂,
13:5不做害羞的事,不求自己的益?,不蒺易办怒,不?算人的?,
13:6不喜?不柳,只喜?真理; 13:7凡事包容,凡事相信,凡事盼望,凡事忍耐。 13:8?是永不止息。

Please not only share it with the girl. Maybe most importantly, share it with her BF and his parents.
 
最初由 moody 发布


PQPQ you are really disgusting.
People should grow from their bad experience.
disgusting but true
 
对父母好我不反对,但是有个度.这里我要声讨一下某些父母们,不要把儿子看成是私有终生财产.套用伟人的话说,儿子是我们的,也是你的,但最终是你的.该放手就要放手.每个人有自己的生活.自己的家.不要干涉别人的生活, 破坏别人的家庭.几代人生活在一个屋檐下,能避免尽量避免,尤其大家都还身体健康的时候,个人的空间应该尊重.如果一定要在一起,起码的互相尊重是必须的.LZ的BF的姿态我无法理解.
 
最初由 moody 发布


Please not only share it with the girl. Maybe most importantly, share it with her BF and his parents.

这位姐妹无疑是爱她的丈夫公婆的。否则也不会有这些的感情纠葛。我倒是很希望她的丈夫也能够看到这篇经文。

夫妻本是一体、应该是互相完全拥有的。
 
他妈做的是不对,her son and his GF should have their own life
可儿子能拿母亲怎么办?
楼主应该爱屋及乌,既然爱他儿子就连老妈一起爱吧
 
有的人一辈子是母亲的乖儿子,对母亲有一种依赖,而母亲往往有很强的控制欲.试图改变这种情况往往是徒劳的.因为它的成因大多在儿童时代,根深蒂固.
 
最初由 moody 发布
The title of your post is "I don't know what to do ...", but I think you already know what you should do, but you just need more courage to do so.

Before you leave him, for your own goodness, you should try your best once more to save your relationship. Good communication is the base of good relationship. Try to talk to him whenever you feel ignored and isolated. Maybe you should not speak at the moment, but you must say it before the end of the day. Tell him your feeling, ask him the reason he/they do so. Tell him you demand (for example, the whole family should walk together after dinner EVERYDAY instead of leaving you alone at home). If there are no change, don't hesitate to leave. No matter how long you have been with each other, there are still tens years ahead. Would you like to live in such life every day?

Don't make any big change in current relationship, such as inviting your parents, having a baby, it will make things even worse. If he cares about you (or love you), he should be nice to you every day, no matter if his parents are here or not.

if you can't speak with him about your feelings (for example communcations will always lead to fights), I think it maybe to late for you to save the relationship. Just leave, don't let yourself being hurt anymore.

Be independent, be strong. You can only get the strengh from yourself. Good luck.

good:cool:
 
最初由 moody 发布
The title of your post is "I don't know what to do ...", but I think you already know what you should do, but you just need more courage to do so.

Before you leave him, for your own goodness, you should try your best once more to save your relationship. Good communication is the base of good relationship. Try to talk to him whenever you feel ignored and isolated. Maybe you should not speak at the moment, but you must say it before the end of the day. Tell him your feeling, ask him the reason he/they do so. Tell him you demand (for example, the whole family should walk together after dinner EVERYDAY instead of leaving you alone at home). If there are no change, don't hesitate to leave. No matter how long you have been with each other, there are still tens years ahead. Would you like to live in such life every day?

Don't make any big change in current relationship, such as inviting your parents, having a baby, it will make things even worse. If he cares about you (or love you), he should be nice to you every day, no matter if his parents are here or not.

if you can't speak with him about your feelings (for example communcations will always lead to fights), I think it maybe to late for you to save the relationship. Just leave, don't let yourself being hurt anymore.

Be independent, be strong. You can only get the strengh from yourself. Good luck.

正解!!!
 
最初由 假农民工 发布
宁拆十座桥,不毁一桩婚。

好,LZ你可以拿这个跟他们牛。如果他们也信这个的话,你还怕谁?
 
很多没有结过婚的人出的主意,更适合婚前的男女朋友们。
 
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