I don't know what to do, please help
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reply to 假农民工:
i still care about my appearance and image. However, maybe we've been togehter for too long. the feeling of 'freshness' has disappeared in his heart already. And also because i'm much older than begining.
Also, if i dont' Ren, he will get mad and i'm really afraid and hate to argue with him.
建议你注意以下几点：
1）很多结了婚的女人，移民加拿大之后，社交圈子小了，也不注意个人打扮和形象了，这很不好。不仅丈夫看着吸引力小了，也对华人整体形象有影响；
3）不要一味忍让。和谐和团结有时候是斗争得来的。 [/B][/QUOTE]
i still care about my appearance and image. However, maybe we've been togehter for too long. the feeling of 'freshness' has disappeared in his heart already. And also because i'm much older than begining.
Also, if i dont' Ren, he will get mad and i'm really afraid and hate to argue with him.
建议你注意以下几点：
1）很多结了婚的女人，移民加拿大之后，社交圈子小了，也不注意个人打扮和形象了，这很不好。不仅丈夫看着吸引力小了，也对华人整体形象有影响；
3）不要一味忍让。和谐和团结有时候是斗争得来的。 [/B][/QUOTE]
Thanks again for the ones who replied my posts.
First of all, i want to cure my headache caused by our complicated relationship. I kept thinking of the relationship these days and i even dreamed of this almost every night. And maybe i cried too much. It's hard to describe the feeling of my deadache in English. The nerves at the middle of my forehead (between my eyes and eyebrowse) Beng Zai Yi Zi for couple of seconds, then released. After around 30 seconds, the nerves Beng Zai Yi Zi for couple of seconds again and released afterwards. They made my whole head feel very tired and dizzy all the time. And in these couple days, i feel that it slightly affects some of the muscles on my face (in Chinese, some of my muscles you dian chou dong very slightly). I never had these symptons in the past. THis usually happened in the early morning when i woke up. And sometimes it happened during the days and nights. I don't have a family doctor yet. Does anyone know why this is happening and kindly tell me how to cure?
First of all, i want to cure my headache caused by our complicated relationship. I kept thinking of the relationship these days and i even dreamed of this almost every night. And maybe i cried too much. It's hard to describe the feeling of my deadache in English. The nerves at the middle of my forehead (between my eyes and eyebrowse) Beng Zai Yi Zi for couple of seconds, then released. After around 30 seconds, the nerves Beng Zai Yi Zi for couple of seconds again and released afterwards. They made my whole head feel very tired and dizzy all the time. And in these couple days, i feel that it slightly affects some of the muscles on my face (in Chinese, some of my muscles you dian chou dong very slightly). I never had these symptons in the past. THis usually happened in the early morning when i woke up. And sometimes it happened during the days and nights. I don't have a family doctor yet. Does anyone know why this is happening and kindly tell me how to cure?
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OMG, reading your post really saddens me. I really feel for you.
You need to follow your heart and have the courage and determination to follow through. you need to determine which option is better for your well being.
Go see a doctor. you don't need a family doctor. there are walk in clinics. there is one inside of the Superstore in Richmond and Kirwood and one inside of the mall between Carling and Richmond. you might want to explain the cause of your headache to the doc. If you have money, you might want to see a shrink(psychologist), if not, find government programs. You don't have to be a victim.
I can't read or reply to your post anymore. Everytime I read your post, there are disturbances in my heart and head. It's not funny.
Take care and good luck.
You need to follow your heart and have the courage and determination to follow through. you need to determine which option is better for your well being.
Go see a doctor. you don't need a family doctor. there are walk in clinics. there is one inside of the Superstore in Richmond and Kirwood and one inside of the mall between Carling and Richmond. you might want to explain the cause of your headache to the doc. If you have money, you might want to see a shrink(psychologist), if not, find government programs. You don't have to be a victim.
I can't read or reply to your post anymore. Everytime I read your post, there are disturbances in my heart and head. It's not funny.
Take care and good luck.
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1. If you feel tired, move out and live alone for some time. Give time to all for a breath.
2. In the end, you are the only one to work out a solution, luckily maybe also with your partner
together.
3. If he does not want to communicate with you, you might need to give up, because nothing can be
solved without communications.
4. If you can clean everything in your mind about the depressed relationship just like we clean
the writings on papers, your headache may disappear. But the question is: can you find the
rubber?
2. In the end, you are the only one to work out a solution, luckily maybe also with your partner
together.
3. If he does not want to communicate with you, you might need to give up, because nothing can be
solved without communications.
4. If you can clean everything in your mind about the depressed relationship just like we clean
the writings on papers, your headache may disappear. But the question is: can you find the
rubber?
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给楼主个建议
这里回帖的很多是男人，他们很多还是有着很深的男权主义，认为女人为了维护家庭就是可以一味的痛苦和隐忍。去这个论坛吧
http://bbs.onlylady.com/forumdisplay.php?fid=5
或者先上网站www.onlylady.com 再点进去论坛
那里有很多有经验的姐妹会给你建议的。
我的建议是这趟混水不要在搅了。
婆婆不喜欢媳妇是很正常的事情，自己养大的儿子被谁抢了心里多少有点不平衡。关键是你lg/bf的态度！！
他这样的男人太屎了，自己先跟你摆好了立场“我死活都是帮着我妈那边的”，你再继续呆下去有什么意义？我承认男人应该把 “孝”放在第一位，但最基本的是要识大体，认识自己每个行为会有什么后果，一味的跟着他娘得指使就叫做“孝”啦！！更可怕的是，他也许并不是不清楚他的行为对你的伤害有多深，而是明明知道伤害好要故意去做？这样的男人，你敢说他还“爱”你吗？
我敢告诉你，这样的情况，如果那个男人还爱你的话，他至少会在他妈前面为你赢得一些尊重。毕竟是他的亲妈，再不喜欢你，如果她儿子执意要你和他们一起散步，在他们面前对你表现起码的尊重，她能拔个刀出来砍了他儿子不成？？？？
愚孝的男人最最最最要不得！！！这种男人根本没脑！！
你敢想象和他过一辈子吗？你以为你可以和他过一辈子吗？谁知道你现在是不是“临时替代品”等他找到了满意的再找个理由换掉呢？不然他妈会肯你们就这样结婚吗？
他们这样做，仿佛就是想把你逼走呢。我建议你别在那儿自个儿生闷气了，去“房屋中心”找个房子，尽快搬出来，睡几个好觉养好精神，剩下的问题慢慢再想。
这里回帖的很多是男人，他们很多还是有着很深的男权主义，认为女人为了维护家庭就是可以一味的痛苦和隐忍。去这个论坛吧
http://bbs.onlylady.com/forumdisplay.php?fid=5
或者先上网站www.onlylady.com 再点进去论坛
那里有很多有经验的姐妹会给你建议的。
我的建议是这趟混水不要在搅了。
婆婆不喜欢媳妇是很正常的事情，自己养大的儿子被谁抢了心里多少有点不平衡。关键是你lg/bf的态度！！
他这样的男人太屎了，自己先跟你摆好了立场“我死活都是帮着我妈那边的”，你再继续呆下去有什么意义？我承认男人应该把 “孝”放在第一位，但最基本的是要识大体，认识自己每个行为会有什么后果，一味的跟着他娘得指使就叫做“孝”啦！！更可怕的是，他也许并不是不清楚他的行为对你的伤害有多深，而是明明知道伤害好要故意去做？这样的男人，你敢说他还“爱”你吗？
我敢告诉你，这样的情况，如果那个男人还爱你的话，他至少会在他妈前面为你赢得一些尊重。毕竟是他的亲妈，再不喜欢你，如果她儿子执意要你和他们一起散步，在他们面前对你表现起码的尊重，她能拔个刀出来砍了他儿子不成？？？？
愚孝的男人最最最最要不得！！！这种男人根本没脑！！
你敢想象和他过一辈子吗？你以为你可以和他过一辈子吗？谁知道你现在是不是“临时替代品”等他找到了满意的再找个理由换掉呢？不然他妈会肯你们就这样结婚吗？
他们这样做，仿佛就是想把你逼走呢。我建议你别在那儿自个儿生闷气了，去“房屋中心”找个房子，尽快搬出来，睡几个好觉养好精神，剩下的问题慢慢再想。
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