my not so last:
What difference does it make, 有儿子or 有daughter, if you plan to live on your own? I am sure your son or daughter will visit you with their family when you are old, and will help you out (does not mean to have you move in with them) when you can no longer help yourself.
Anyone watched the movie "the Notebook"? It is about an old couple. One of them got Alzheimer.
There was one old Chinese couple in Ottawa, whom I admire tremendously. They passed away a couple year ago. Lived a full life on their own. Had a lot of friends, young and old. Even helped others at their old age. Wise and always optimistic...
My Chinese input (google Chinese) tool is not coming out... will type in their names from my cell later.