这年月,有人喜欢与公婆或岳父母同住的吗?

Our teenager daughter asked us to promise her we would not live alone when we are old ... we have to live with her (+ her family) as "old people are miserable on their own". We told her we will wait and see ... :p
我家十岁的小子,我说以后妈妈老了你就不要跟我住啦,他睁着大大的眼睛看着我说,绝对不会!哈哈,虽然知道不靠谱,听听心里还是温暖的。孩子还是小时候好,爱爸爸爱妈妈,等我们老了,就讨厌了,唉。想想也满心酸的。咱以后努力不讨嫌吧
 
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爬了半天楼,发现,多是积极踊跃表现自己的高大上,还有顺带损一下没岳父岳母/公公婆婆的。 都是eat too much 了; plus,站着说话不腰疼,,,
 
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爬了半天楼,发现,多是积极踊跃表现自己的高大上,还有顺带损一下没岳父岳母/公公婆婆的。 都是eat too much 了; plus,站着说话不腰疼,,,
其实家家有本难念的经,很难说应该怎么处理,楼上讲的事情,我就挺同情的。
 
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What difference does it make, 有儿子or 有daughter, if you plan to live on your own? I am sure your son or daughter will visit you with their family when you are old, and will help you out (does not mean to have you move in with them) when you can no longer help yourself.
Anyone watched the movie "the Notebook"? It is about an old couple. One of them got Alzheimer.

There was one old Chinese couple in Ottawa, whom I admire tremendously. They passed away a couple year ago. Lived a full life on their own. Had a lot of friends, young and old. Even helped others at their old age. Wise and always optimistic...
My Chinese input (google Chinese) tool is not coming out... will type in their names from my cell later.
当然有关系。

有儿子,你将是婆婆;有女儿,你将成为丈母娘;有儿子又有女儿,你将既是婆婆又是丈母娘。

风水轮流转。
 
当然有关系。

有儿子,你将是婆婆;有女儿,你将成为丈母娘;有儿子又有女儿,你将既是婆婆又是丈母娘。

风水轮流转。
When I become a 丈母娘 or 婆婆, I would not want to live with my daughter or son- in law for over 1 week at one time. Period. I want my own space. It is that simple. Honestly, I do not think I can bare to live in others' house for over 1 week.
 
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When I become a 丈母娘 or 婆婆, I would not want to live with my daughter or son- in law for over 1 week at one time. Period. I want my own space. It is that simple.

Wait and see ...:)
 
When I become a 丈母娘 or 婆婆, I would not want to live with my daughter or son- in law for over 1 week at one time. Period. I want my own space. It is that simple.

live with, no way. You could stay in a hotel.
 
如果中国老人们多自立,就来加60%的时间,另外与人同住时自觉一点,问问子女是否希望同住,那就完全不一样。 有的中国老人不自觉,这就是我开这个帖子的观点。
什么叫自觉?当子女年幼时,付出全部的心血培养子女,没人逼迫他们,他们是自觉的去做,因为爱!啊,子女长大了,自立门户了,不再需要父母无微不至的照顾了,子女就要求父母自觉的离开,隐身,不给小家庭添麻烦??!!实在不敢苟同你的观点,要求老人“多自立”,什么逻辑!你要求小孩子多自立,他们自立得了吗?“来加60%的时间”,当你说这句话的时候,你想没想过老人们往返奔波在中加之间,那么长的飞行对身强力壮的我们都是挑战,何况上了年纪的老人!
 
什么叫自觉?当子女年幼时,付出全部的心血培养子女,没人逼迫他们,他们是自觉的去做,因为爱!啊,子女长大了,自立门户了,不再需要父母无微不至的照顾了,子女就要求父母自觉的离开,隐身,不给小家庭添麻烦??!!实在不敢苟同你的观点,要求老人“多自立”,什么逻辑!你要求小孩子多自立,他们自立得了吗?“来加60%的时间”,当你说这句话的时候,你想没想过老人们往返奔波在中加之间,那么长的飞行对身强力壮的我们都是挑战,何况上了年纪的老人!

说的是对待公婆。
 
父母什么权利呀?你养了一个孩子到18岁?他/她就得养你从75到你去世 (25 years possible)? 这投资太合算!太自私吧!
So shocked!! 哇,你是认真的,还是逗大家玩?
 
说的是对待公婆。
我猜她说的也是对待公婆,否则,这样对亲身父母,太奇葩了!即使对待公婆,也不应该!爱上一个人,嫁了一个人,这个人给你幸福,最应该感谢的不正是他的父母吗?正是公婆培养教育了枕边人,你才会有今生的快乐幸福,不应该好好和老公一起孝敬老人,让他们安度晚年吗?唉,现在的年轻人真的完全忘了中国的传统美德了吗?即使西化,也不会这样!
 
我猜她说的也是对待公婆,否则,这样对亲身父母,太奇葩了!即使对待公婆,也不应该!爱上一个人,嫁了一个人,这个人给你幸福,最应该感谢的不正是他的父母吗?正是公婆培养教育了枕边人,你才会有今生的快乐幸福,不应该好好和老公一起孝敬老人,让他们安度晚年吗?唉,现在的年轻人真的完全忘了中国的传统美德了吗?即使西化,也不会这样!
不跟子女住一起就没办法安度晚年了?

我觉得楼主说的是老人能自理的前提下,应该自己住。

等老人病了,没办法照顾自己了,楼主也说子女应该会负起责任,照顾他们。我猜到时候,子女可以去老人家照顾陪同,或者请long term care 护士照顾,然后子女经常探望. 如果子女白天都要上班,老人无法自理,请人照顾老人是很正常的。要不只能选择辞去工作,24/7long term care 了。其实 如果那时候子女都退休了,陪在老人身边有何不可呢?

如果老人能自理,还非要跟子女同住,非但不帮忙还总要人伺候,并且挑起矛盾,那真是自私。
 
Shocking:shale:... Shocking...??
Chinese in Ottawa are more traditional than Chinese in China?:shale:
 
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