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中年妇女,月经不调,珍爱生命,请远离之
 
中年妇女,月经不调,珍爱生命,请远离之

给楼主出主意的,不少是中年妇女。:D

中年妇女的热心,大部分是按捺不住的,即使年轻人那么看不起她们。不过年轻人的母亲,基本已经过了“月经不调”时期。:D
 
给楼主出主意的,不少是中年妇女。:D

中年妇女的热心,大部分是按捺不住的,即使年轻人那么看不起她们。不过年轻人的母亲,基本已经过了“月经不调”时期。:D

很多中年妇女,为家人、朋友、同事甚至陌生人都会奉献出自己的爱心,最基本的一点就是不会为了保住自己而陷害排挤别人。因为到了这个年级,人品和工作表现应该都是有目共睹、坚固不摧的。

所以真正有能力有魅力的中年妇女们啊,会让新人们死心塌地为她工作而不是使坏心眼害人。这样的妇女是受所有人尊敬的,但显然LZ同事那样的中年妇女就是要被别人鄙视的。
 
八卦一下啊,呵呵~~
那个中年女同事很可能跟老板有特殊关系,要不然也不会才几天就对LZ这么排挤。而且老板肯定也知道是怎么回事,只不过此女的栽赃已经成功,LZ也糊里糊涂得吃了哑巴亏,老板想救也救不了了。

不过LZ啊,如果真的是这样,那你也不必生气烦恼了,就算你做的再好,让老板也知道你的积极表现了,此女也会后浪推前浪,直到把你拍在沙滩上为止,呵呵。

这样的工作不做也罢,别灰心,继续找,best of luck!
 
按楼主的说法,中年妇女在老板那里,把责任都推到年轻的楼主身上。不过,我看到的是,年轻的楼主在CFC,把责任都推到中年妇女身上。

网上的一面之词,总能让知心大姐,大叔,小妹,小弟们冲出来见义勇为。记得有一阵是关于房东和房客的纠纷,规律是,谁先爆料谁有理。
 
现在找到工作都不容易,刚在一家中国人的小公司里做office assistant, 但工作没几天,就被一中年女同事栽赃。凡是她失职的、交待不清楚的、忘记做的,全部都推到我身上,说我粗心不负责,对公司的业务造成了非常消极的影响。

我下载到桌面上的客户schedule文件,似乎也被人改动过,丢失了重要的信息。曾经由她re-schedule的信息,她也没有完整填写具体时间,导致安装人员没有按预约时间到达客户家中。后来还有的一些appointment上的update, 我都第一时间发邮件并打电话给她,让她通知安装人员。不知道是不是她忘记做,结果安装人员没有如约到客户家,还抱怨没有安排事情给他们,客户当然也打电话投诉我们公司失约。最后,她把所有的责任都推到我身上。

还有一些信息,我无从知道具体时间,向她求教时,她只是凭借记忆告诉我,没有真凭实据。因为她是我前辈,我完全相信她,结果到最后她在老板那里却说这些时间好多都是错误的,是我太粗心造成。

当我想要指出她的过失时,她却说现在不是谁的错的问题了。我这几天的工作也被她评价为“太多的headache"。老板虽然用心平气和的态度跟我谈了,但我还是以替罪羊的身份丢了工作。

我是刚毕业一年的学生,社会经验不足,还真没有碰上过这样的人。如果当事人看到,希望你做人厚道些,这样对你、对公司都有好处;也希望各位前辈们不要对人,就事论事,多加指点!

Everybody can learn something from the suggestion.

Survive Office Politics

Office politics will never go away. It's a fact of company life. However, destructive office politics can demoralize an organization, hamper productivity, and increase turnover. Here are some tips, applicable for both staff and management, on dealing with office politics.


#1: Live at peace with others

The easiest way to avoid problems with politics is to get along with people. I'm not saying you need to hug everyone and sing songs, and I'm not saying you have to be a pushover for everyone. You can be pleasant and professional, while at the same time being assertive when necessary. If you have a concern, focus only on the issue, not on the person. If you have to refuse a request, explain why and try to come up with alternative solutions.
Living at peace with others also means being careful about choosing sides during office power struggles. Aligning yourself with one faction or the other will prevent you from working effectively with people from the "other" side, thereby hampering your productivity and thus your performance. It's even worse if "your" faction loses out. Instead, try to focus on your tasks, dealing with people in either faction on the basis of the tasks alone, and avoid talk on the political issue that separates the groups.

#2: Don't talk out of school

Three can keep a secret if two of them are dead.
- Benjamin Franklin
Does your organization have issues? Have people told you things in confidence? Then keep those matters to yourself. Talking to outsiders about issues within your organization makes all of you look bad to that outsider. Furthermore, your boss or your boss's boss will not appreciate that behavior. People will find out that you spoke about what they told you, and they'll lose confidence in you and respect for you.

#3: Be helpful

We all have responsibilities and objectives, and those things should receive priority. Nonetheless, if it doesn't take too much time, being helpful to others can reap benefits for you. Does someone need a ride in the direction you live? Did your co-worker leave headlights on in the parking lot? Is someone having trouble building an Excel macro? If you can help that person, especially if you can do so without taking too much of your time, you benefit yourself as well as the other person. By doing these things, you're building political capital and loyalty. In doing so, you reduce the chances that you will be the victim of political intrigue.

#4: Stay away from gossip

I never repeat gossip, so listen carefully.
- Old joke
Nothing destroys the dynamics of an office more than gossip. Stay away from it, because nothing good comes from it. Just be sure you avoid the "holier than thou" attitude of lecturing your co-workers on the evils of gossip. You'll make them lose face, and they'll resent you. Instead, try subtly changing the subject. For example, suppose the group is talking about Jane's problems with her child, and of course Jane is absent from the group. Do some free association and try to come up with some topic that's related to Jane or her child, but won't involve gossip. Then, make a comment about that topic.
For instance, suppose you know that Jane's child is involved in a sports league. Mention this fact, thereby linking the child and the league. Then, shift the conversation so that you're now talking about the league rather than Jane's child. You could ask when schedules will be published, or if they need parent volunteers. If you do it right, no one will even notice that you've moved them away from the gossip.

#5: Stay out of those talk-down-the-boss sessions

Suppose your co-workers start complaining about the boss. If you join in, it makes you look disloyal to the boss. If you don't, it looks awkward in the group. What can you do? As with the situation of gossip, try changing the subject by linking the boss to another topic, then talking about that topic instead. Or you could simply respond to your co-workers with a smile and a tongue-in-cheek, "Come on, aren't we exaggerating? [name of boss] really isn't THAT bad." Be careful, though, because it could be taken as an admission by you that the boss is bad.

#6: Be a straight arrow

The best way to keep out of trouble politically is to be seen as someone who doesn't play office politics - in other words, a straight arrow. Do what you say you're going to do, alert people to problems, and admit your mistakes. Others will respect you, even if they don't always agree with you. More important, you have a lower chance of being a victim of politics.

#7: Address the "politics" issue openly when appropriate

Many times, when I do organizational assessments, I sense anxiety on the part of client staff. To address this anxiety, I tell people I interview that I'm not there to get people fired. I'm there to help the organization function better. It might not completely allay their fears and suspicions, but at least I've brought up the issue and addressed it.
Think about doing the same thing if you believe politics is an underlying theme at your company. Tell people you're not interested in scoring political points but only in getting the job done. It might not work, but unless you bring the matter up, there's no chance at all that they will believe you. So if a co-worker is unavailable, and you have to act on that person's behalf, consider saying to that person, "I had to act because of your absence. I wasn't trying to go behind your back and I wasn't trying to show you up."

#8: Document things

Nothing saves a job or career more than having a written record. If you believe a matter will come back to haunt you, make sure you keep a record of the matter, either via e-mail or document. Documentation is also an effective way to highlight of your own accomplishments, which can help you when your performance evaluation is conducted.

#9: Set incentives to foster teamwork

If you're a manager or senior executive, take a close look at your incentives. Are you unwittingly setting up your staff to work against each other? Do your metrics address only individual departments, or do they also address how departments could benefit the larger organization?
For example, suppose the hardware department of Sears reduced all its prices by half. If you measured only profitability of the department, you would conclude that it is performing horribly. However, that measurement would neglect to account for increased volume in all other departments because of the hardware department.
If you reward employees in a department based only on how well that department does, you may inadvertently cause destructive competition among departments. Each one will be competing against every other one, and all the departments could end up in a worse position. To minimize this possibility, give employees incentives based not only on department results but on organization results as well. That way, employees from different departments have more motivation to work together and less motivation to engage in destructive politics.

#10: Set an example for your staff

People in an organization look to leadership to see how to act. Do you want your staff to refrain from negative politics? Do you want to see collaboration and teamwork instead of petty rivalries, jealousy, and back-stabbing? Act the way you want your staff to act, and they will follow you.
 
That's very helpful, thanks:)

Office politics and internal conflicts have tremendous effect on a company's culture and produtivity. The art of management is crucial, too.

For small companies like this, the result was terrible: someone lost the job, someone stayed but had to do way more works, and the boss couldn't take control of the situation and would be worried of hiring a new assistant again. If the boss couldn't figure out a way to fix this issue, the company wouldn't grow but possibly go down eventually.

That's why effective teamwork and good management are always a good couple :)
 
按楼主的说法,中年妇女在老板那里,把责任都推到年轻的楼主身上。不过,我看到的是,年轻的楼主在CFC,把责任都推到中年妇女身上。

网上的一面之词,总能让知心大姐,大叔,小妹,小弟们冲出来见义勇为。记得有一阵是关于房东和房客的纠纷,规律是,谁先爆料谁有理。

[FONT=宋体]这位前辈说的对,我当然也有责任。问题出来时大家不应该互相推卸责任,最重要的是怎样解决。[/FONT]

[FONT=宋体]但就是因为此同事把所有的责任都推到我身上,讲我坏话,而且老板又全部相信她依赖她,我也因此不清不白地丢了工作。[/FONT]

[FONT=宋体]之前[/FONT]prof[FONT=宋体]和前雇主对我的评价都非常好,只不过现在遇到小人栽了跟头,所以我才把我的[/FONT]case[FONT=宋体]拿上来跟大家分享。因为不管在哪,这种小人都太常见了,谁碰上都有可能吃亏。所以不管遇到的、没有遇到的,都欢迎来讨论交流下。[/FONT]

No offence[FONT=宋体]啊,我发现楼上在[/FONT]CFC[FONT=宋体]发的帖子和回复都比较消极,什么国内又出什么事故啦,共产党又怎样怎样啦,您有心讨论这些那应该是事业顺利生活富裕了吧[/FONT]~

[FONT=宋体]不过希望你人生积极些,乐于助人些,向前看,生活一定是美好的,对吧?这个坛子里知心人热心人都很多,向这些人学习下多好呢?[/FONT]

[FONT=宋体]祝你人生越来越顺利,好吧?[/FONT]
 
[FONT=宋体]这位前辈说的对,我当然也有责任。问题出来时大家不应该互相推卸责任,最重要的是怎样解决。[/FONT]

[FONT=宋体]但就是因为此同事把所有的责任都推到我身上,讲我坏话,而且老板又全部相信她依赖她,我也因此不清不白地丢了工作。[/FONT]

[FONT=宋体]之前[/FONT]prof[FONT=宋体]和前雇主对我的评价都非常好,只不过现在遇到小人栽了跟头,所以我才把我的[/FONT]case[FONT=宋体]拿上来跟大家分享。因为不管在哪,这种小人都太常见了,谁碰上都有可能吃亏。所以不管遇到的、没有遇到的,都欢迎来讨论交流下。[/FONT]

No offence[FONT=宋体]啊,我发现楼上在[/FONT]CFC[FONT=宋体]发的帖子和回复都比较消极,什么国内又出什么事故啦,共产党又怎样怎样啦,您有心讨论这些那应该是事业顺利生活富裕了吧[/FONT]~

[FONT=宋体]不过希望你人生积极些,乐于助人些,向前看,生活一定是美好的,对吧?这个坛子里知心人热心人都很多,向这些人学习下多好呢?[/FONT]

[FONT=宋体]祝你人生越来越顺利,好吧?[/FONT]

没有必要扯来扯去,just move on!

不过,你也应该更加积极一些,不要把看到的、遇到的、想到的人都以为是小人。如果他们是小人,你就应该成熟起来,这就显出你是大人了。如果他们的确是小人,你再给他们计较,那么你是啥呢?

从原LZ的帖子,希望你学到些东西。老板做的没有错,完全符合正常人的习惯,因为你的同事工作久了得到了你老板的信任。可惜,你没有。

前一段时间原可口可乐-中国的总裁朱先生来给我们讲如何在职业场所做人,做一个好的基督徒。他提到了如何因应被裁的情况。可惜俺没有早点听,不然俺也许不会在被裁的时候那么火大而结果等了一年多才找到工作。朱先生讲了很多,他的重点就是说要act and think positively and do the right thing, not do the thing right even though it is important as well.

Good luck looking for another job.
 
And this is the recommendation from a 可口可乐总裁? And "doing the right thing" means kissing asses, bribing etc...?

Pathetic!

那是你自己说的,是你自己推测的。我没有听他说。
 
Yes, you didn't say it but you think it is important enough to quote it here as recommendation.

"not to do thing right" is definitely not my advice to anyone as it is morally wrong.

By the way, the "kissing..." comments are just me being sarcastic.
 
Yes, you didn't say it but you think it is important enough to quote it here as recommendation.

"not to do thing right" is definitely not my advice to anyone as it is morally wrong.

By the way, the "kissing..." comments are just me being sarcastic.

谢谢你的自我评论。

其实朱先生说即使在被裁员的时候也要尽量给同事保持好的关系,这样情况改变了你也许就给招回来了。即使不被招回来,以前的同事也许在你找工作的时候美言几句,你的新工作在别处就又有了!That's the reason why I quoted him saying : it is important to do the right thing.

As to the "right thing", 愿神赐给大家有一个right的看法和智慧to realize what is the "right thing" at one specific moment。

When I was laid off in 2002, I did not do the right thing and then I couldn't be hired back as a contractor even though some friends were trying very hard to get me back.

From my experience, I begin to realize that it is not your ability or knowledge which keeps you employed in a company, it is how you interact with others to keep you employed using your ability and knowledge.
 
I am talking about your "not do the thing right", not "do the right thing", they are totally different things (no pun intended).

And no wonder, you are talking about God.

Sorry about that, I know nothing about God.

P.S. So exactly what " I did not do the right thing" you didn't do, enlighten us.
 
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